- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I really hope I dont sound like a bratty little cry baby right now. I had my guest list all figured out until yesterday. I wanted a small reception with no more than 120 people. My mom got married yesterday, and people started inviting themselves to my reception! To make matters worse, I have step siblings with 6 new nieces and nephews (some very badly behaved). I wasn’t planning for them to come (I started planning before their engagement was announced). I was already at my limit before this happened. I was only planning for our son, nieces and nephews to be there, which would total 6 children. My FI’s family isn’t big and my Future Mother-In-Law already started complaining on how I have so many people. She so far hasn’t helped with any cost yet by the way (dont really care too much about it, but still annoys me a little). I added my 4 step siblings but would I be wrong not to include the children. Once again, they’re extremely bad. The whole thing isn’t that I don’t like them or anything. I simply just don’t have the room. My space holds but so many people and I was already at my max BEFORE i added the siblings. I love my venue and don’t want to change. The reception is cocktail. I wanted seating for 110 people (original guest list before the add ons). I can not add additional seating. Everyone is saying that considering that it’s cocktail, it will be fine. But i hate the idea of having 130+ with 110 seating with my side way bigger than my FI’s with my FMIL talking crap about me and my family. Please help, i don’t know what to do. This isn’t what i wanted, and on top of that, i have people asking me not to invite certain people to MY wedding because they don’t like them. And guaranteeing a fight with that person if they come. In that situation, i feel that they have no regard for my Fiance and i wedding over their personal issues. My Fiance is the type that don’t care about all these little things (especially what his mother thinks) but I feel that it’s a little messed up about saying stuff when you aren’t helping. Not looking for help but geez! Financially, I know it would’ve been extremely tough on her so we didn’t ask. And as far as planning goes, I’ve been doing it alone (my choice). I just can’t please everyone, but I’m still trying to. In the process, I’m totally loosing my vision.
ETA: my Future Mother-In-Law called me cheap and tacky (calls me that quite often beacause im offbeat and adding a lot of offbeat elements to the wedding) for making the reception cocktail. I want a party, we are at a lounge, not banquet hall like she wanted it at. I’m sure she wants to help with money but I know right now it would just be too much on her plate. And its only cocktail because we can add people like her random friend that really don’t need to be there.