(Closed) I don't know what to do

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
Member
1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I don’t understand why you have to cancel your plans? We need more details of your situation, but until your sister is engaged, it’s all talk and speculation. I’d wait to see if she gets engaged. Then go from there, but it’s possible that you might get money as wedding gifts, which could help your situation.

Of course you cannot count on this, but I feel like you also can’t short change your own life over your sister’s wedding and she can’t short change herself over yours. Now, when a person decides to have a destination wedding, they should be doing so with the understanding that if they don’t fund 100% for their guests, they can’t be upset if guests can’t afford to be there. Don’t get me wrong, they are not required to fund it, but that’s the only way to ensure someone will be there. 

So why are you feeling it’s necessary for you to be at your sister’s wedding? Sentimental reasons? she’s guilting you? you’re in the wedding? What?

 

 

 

Post # 5
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

A lot can change between now and then (finances, relationships, her plans etc). Don’t worry about it until it’s more definite.

Post # 6
Member
191 posts
Blushing bee

I agree with the others.  If it’s just all talk then don’t feel guilty.

Post # 7
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1269 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Happybee1985:  I know how that feels. I felt that I had to be there for my little brother’s wedding and found a way. They went on a ship and did it. But I wasn’t planning my own wedding at the time.

I still advise you not to shortchange your own wedding and honeymoon because of anyone else’s plans. Your sister’s wedding can’t come before your own.

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