Post # 1
I’m having issues! We’ve talked about engagement. I’m pretty sure it’s coming within the next 6months to a year… the issue is that I CANNOT SHUT UP about the ring!! But I have the best intentions >.>
I didn’t want her spending $2000+ (she was planning on 7+ because that is how much the ring was she saw me looking at in the single store we’ve ever gone to to look) for a ring when we have so much else to save for, so I’ve been looking at diamond alternatives and have found that I like Morganite more than I ever expected to! It’s beautiful! So I wanted to tell her about it, and that I loved it and would be VERY happy with this MUCH cheaper alternative. But then I heard it is a very soft stone and not a good “forever” ring, so I told her that…and then I heard about peach/champagne/clear sapphires…so I told her that…
It seems like necessary information, especially since we are currently long distance there is a good chance she will be buying a ring before she comes here again, but I can tell she’s getting overwhelmed with me talking about it. How do I shut it up and still get this financially savvy information across??
Post # 3
@AlexiaMichelle: well maybe the next time you see her, or next time you are chatting on the phone/ texting or whatever mention you browsing a ring catalog or online and tell her the things that stand out that you really like and your amazed by the price etc etc.
i think it should be easy to bring up since you said youre always talking about the ring anyway :p
Post # 4
I think self restraint in ‘shutting up’ is a huge issue for every waiting bee including myself. I think in your case it might be beneficial to have just one more conversation about it. Ask if it’s important to her that she chooses and/or pays for the ring herself. Many couples now shop for the ring together and/or split the cost. I would also let her know that you definitely don’t want her to spend a lot on the ring, and that you are open to other gemstones (maybe she’s thinking it HAS to be a diamond). Once you are both on the same page in terms of expectations/preferences, etc., I would leave it at that. Resolve not to bring it up again, especially if you say she is getting overwhelmed when you bring it up. Be confident that she knows what you like and so there is no point going over it again. Find something else to talk about. If you want to talk rings/proposals, you can always talk about it on the Bee 🙂 I hope that helps!