Post # 1
I found out earlier this week that my cousin is getting married in Vegas this weekend, I was happy for him but I knew I wasn’t going to go because I had other plans during that time and it was kind of short notice. I felt horrible about it but what could I do?
I feel selfish and bad about it. My grandmother called me up and basically grilled me to go to the wedding, she went on about how hurt he would be and how I had no excuse. The thing is, my cousin wasn’t the one who invited me, I never even met his fiance (or even knew he had a girlfriend!) so I felt awkward about going. I am not asking for an engraved invitation from him, but I would feel akward going to a wedding that I was invited to through another person. I don’t even think my cousin cares about me going. I am not saying this in a pity way, but rather just the flat out truth. Also, financially I cannot go to Vegas at the moment. Why do I feel awful and selfish for not going?
Post # 3
The wedding is this weekend and you JUST found out? And not even from the bride or groom? You so don’t have to go. Is your grandma offering to pay for your ticket? If not just tell her (the only one that seems to care) that you literally have no way to get there/cannot afford to go, especially since its last minute.
Post # 4
Don’t go. And the answer to anyone who questions you? You weren’t invited.
Invites do not come from other people, they come from the bride and groom. This works in your favor here. You going would be like someone adding an uninvited guest on their RSVP (which we all know is bad and wrong)!
If that somehow gets you an official invite, still don’t go. Politely decline and don’t give a reason. You don’t owe anyone a reason for declining an invitation, and your reasons for not going are legitimate.
Post # 5
So. Don’t go. However, through the grapevine and to keep family peace, I might send a card with either a gift or a giftcard to a store near where they live. There are discount ones that you can get for 50% off face vallue near major metro areas. Even to a decent restaurant. Make it about the two of them.
And you aren’t knocking yourself out trying to get them to approve of you and your not spending a fortune.