(Closed) I don't know what to do about my younger sister..

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’d have her get arrested frankly. Actually arressted.

It’ll wake her up real damn fast. Thats what I did to my little sister. It worked for us, but may not work for you. Either way that little girl needs some counceling.

Post # 5
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Honey bee

Anonymously call the school. IMO, that’s your best option. She sounds like a danger to you, your parents, and herself. My little sister is 15 and if she was doing half of those things, I wouldn’t hesitate. If she finds out it was you, she’ll probably hate you for a while, but hopefully she’ll thank you when she’s older. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

I’m no leagle type, but I’m guess you’d have to file some sort of charges against her to ensure her arrest. I have no idea if the school has the authority to do that, but I’d hope they would. Though if she does NOT have drugs on her, you could get in big trouble yourself and they may not believe you again.

The way I got my sister arressted was because she actually hit me and I filed assault charges. I dropped them about a week later if I remember right. I DID talk to the cops when they got there and told them the entier story and they were happy to rattle her cage a bit (pardon the pun).

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Based on the info you presented, it sounds like the best thing for your sister would be to get arrested and deal with the consqeuences of her actions. She’s not listening to you or your parents and she needs everyone to stop catching her when she falls, or turning a blind eye to her inappropriate behavior. I’d call the school and anonymously report your suspicions. Forget “fake arrests”, let her get arrested for real. Sometimes, people have to learn the hard way. 

Personally, I’d rather have a sister who is alive and healthy and hates me, than a drugged-up, pregnant sister who loves me because I’m an enabler. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

The cutting would actually worry me more than the weed, smoking, or drinking. I agree that 14 is young to be doing any of those things, but usually people only cut if there are some serious emotional problems going on. She needs therapy or an inpatient program.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

Someone can’t be arrested for failing a drug test.  It is not technically illegal to be high on marijuana.  It is illegal to possess marijuana.  If you can catch her with some marijuana, then call the cops.  Otherwise, they can’t hold her on anything.  Honestly, this is your parents’ battle to fight, not yours.  They’ve refused to punish her out of fear.  I will never understand that.  Parents being afraid of their kids.  If they’re paying all of her bills and providing her shelter, they have complete control.  They should send her to some sort of delinquent group home.  It might turn her attitude around really quickly. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I’m going to offer another perspective… only b/c I’ve watched someone I loved and felt responsible for ruining their life and I know how consuming and devastating it is.  Would you consider joining a support group?  Al-anon? 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Actually they CAN force her into councelling. She’s a minor and is a danger to herself and others.

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What Hellecat said. The stuff about getting your sister arrested… bad advice. Really you don’t want to risk her ending up in juvie (or foster care, which could happen if she blames her issues on abusive parents… you’ve already said she’s a liar.)

Your mom should talk to somebody in psychiatry; she probably knows someone if she’s a nurse. Get a recommendationn for an in-patient program, because it sounds like your sister has the run of the family. And your parents should also talk to a therapist to learn how to react (or not) when your sister pushes their buttons. (And even with getting her into an in-patient program, if they have decent insurance, it’ll probably be less expensive than getting her arrested. Health insurance doesn’t cover lawyers.) 

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I called the cops on my cousin when he decided to drive drunk/high. I gave the cops his liscense plate number and told them where he was heading. He’s currently in jail for 6 months for it. Hopefully he gets his shit together. 

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