- 6 years ago
In the recent past, a lot of things have been going wrong in my family. My mother and I had a falling-out (which has now started getting better and we are trying to mend things), and now…this.
A backstory: my sister has always been a compulsive liar. She can lie and not bat an eye, or care that she has just lied to you. She has a very sociopathic personality (IMO, she has not been diagnosed), and she has threatened me with a knife before (when she was 11.) She is now 14, and has begun smoking cigarettes, drinking, and smoking weed. This has been going on for about 6 months or so. My mother suspected the cigarettes and the drinking, but not the weed. In fact, my sister, (I’ll call her X) has lied to me about smoking. I’ve told her multiple times that she can come to me with anything at all, and she has sworn up and down that she doesn’t smoke weed [anymore] and the last time was in April.
Yesterday, I went through her texts to see who she was talking to (out of curiosity, and because my Mom told me to keep a check on her). Lo and behold, I found out that she has been texting one guy to buy weed for her (sexting, to get what she wants from him, actually; this guy is 18 and she is under the age of consent), and then texting ANOTHER guy to get her water pills ‘to clean out her system’. This last boy she was texting is her ex (who is a drug-dealer and a no good POS, honestly). They have been making plans to get back together and such. She is FOURTEEN years old. Not only is she too young to smoke and drink, but weed is ILLEGAL. She has threatened to call DHR on my parents (because they’re ‘verbally abusive’; they are kind of harsh, but have never threatened her life or well-being), she has punched my Mother in the arm, and has such an attitude about her that we don’t know what to do. I told my Mother what I found in the texts, and she’s bought an over-the-counter drug test, and won’t speak (much less look at) my sister. She hasn’t told my Dad yet, because we are in the process of moving and he already has blood pressure/heart problems; she really doesn’t want to give him some kind of BP issue with this news at the moment..but she can’t wait too long or something could happen.
On top of her lying, smoking, drinking, and sexting, she is also cutting herself. I saw her arms and it really pissed me off, TBH. I told her that this was no way to solve whatever issues she had, and she smiled at me and said, “You used to cut. You can’t say sh*t”. That’s true, but I also have a history of abusive ex-BFs and I was raped at a young age. I also didn’t have an older sibling or counselor to talk to; she has both if she chooses.
I don’t know what to do. I just needed to vent on here since I can’t talk to anyone else about this besides FI and my Mom. I’m so afraid of what my Dad will do when he finds out; she is already so blatantly rebellious and I’m afraid this is the last straw for them. I did the right thing in telling my Mother, right? (Mom knows cops in the city we live, since she is a nurse; she said she would get them to ‘fake arrest’ her, but if they do that…they could drug test, and then she’d ACTUALLY get arrested.) I am so afraid that she will end up trying a drug worse than marijuana, or getting herself into a compromising situation and ending up pregnant or dead. She won’t listen to me, or anyone around her anymore. I don’t know how to handle this. She has exhausted my patience and love for her; I’ve tried to be a great big sister and she thanks me by lying to me and throwing my past back in my face.