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He did lie to you. He told you that you would be getting engaged to get you back and did nothing about it. Also, wtf at giving you a ring? That just seems evil.
How is the relationship otherwise? Are you truly happy with this man?
You have two choices here.
set a mental deadline, don't tell him about it, and stick to it. lol i told my guy, jokingly (sorta), that he had an expiration date. i'm not sure i would've had the guts to go through with it if the time came, but it made me feel a lot better.
i guess only you can gauge what his intentions are. if you truly feel like he's sincere, then wait. if you feel like he's stringing you along, i'd get the hell out of there.
well yeah we dont fight or anything like that..no name calling.. hes a heard worker..makes good money..and everything..and i am happy with him.. but i dont wanna be in my 30s when i f-n have kids..u know?.. my mom and dad have been together sence 8th gread..and they still love eachother and stuf like that.. but everytime i bring up something about marrige ..hes always like .." i dont know"..or wont say anything at all...
Er, if he said you would get engaged and now when you mention marriage he says "I don't know", that sounds like he's just stringing you along.
Now that the deadline is up, I would bring up with him that he told you you guys would be engaged by now back when he was trying to win you back and see what he says.
Why did he get mad? What was his reasoning for being mad at you for that?
no he didnt get mad...i got mad...he's not much of a 'talker' when it comes to stuff like that... and ive tryed.. and still yet..get nothing.. it hurts my feelings.. and now hes all super nice to me..wtf?!
I agree that you need to sit down and talk with him. If he can't talk to you about marriage and/or give you a good answer, then he probably isn't ready for a big commitment. I think you should give him the chance to explain himself (and maybe about the other ring too), but may want to give yourself a mental deadline (like GeorgiaTeacup said). Good luck!
OH..and another thing.. his 10 year is this year...for being out of school..and i told him that "im NOT going as your girlfriend"..and he just says "ok"..?????
He is giving you mixed messages and stringing you along. Giving you a ring too and being so uncaring about it is just totally inconsiderate in my opinion! If he can't at least sit down and have a conversation about it with you, I wouldn't stick around too much longer. At least if he can explain what the heck is going on, you might give him a bit more time.
There are 2 rules in life:
#1 NEVER give a girl a ring unless a) it's an engagement ring or b) the 2 of you are already married.
#2 Don't ask someone if she is pregnant until you see a head.
Beat it sister -you don't look that old to me!
A serious talk is in order. Sadly, it sounds like he's stringing you along and doesn't plan to propose anytime soon. How old is he? Perhaps he's just not ready yet? Either way, giving you a ring seems kind of mean since he knows you're waiting for "the ring".
I'm confused why you uploaded a pic of yourself.. but anyway.. I would leave him if you honestly feel as though you mentioned it several times in 2010 as well as after you broke up. I think the ring he got you at Christmas was really stupid of him.
@n3vergon3: but everytime i bring up something about marrige ..hes always like .." i dont know"..or wont say anything at all...
May I ask how old you are because I just have the impression you're very young.
Aside from that though, I think you have your answer. You gave him a deadline that he was well aware of but ignored, you've tried to discuss it and you get no action/reaction. There's really no mystery here - he's hoping you'll stay but doesn't want to propose. Its up to you to accept that or not.
(to everyone)- soo i talked to him..and told him that it made me mad that he gave me ring knowing what i was wanting.. and i said that i felt that he lied to me about getting back to gether and the (deadline). he told me he didnt mean to hurt my feelings and that he didnt know giveing me a ring was the wrong thing..*push...guys*.. i asked him if i was "the one"?..and if not then why are we about to cross the 5 year mark for no reason?...he told me i was..and that he wanted to be with me...he said that he wanted to be in a good place *money wise* so he can "do it right". so im glad that we had a talk and that he said more then "idk".. umm to the people that asked about my Age..Im 27..will be 28 im May.. he is 28.. will be 29 in November. i know i look 19..lol..i get it alot. *go me*.
Do what you feel is right in your heart* if you feel he is worth waiting for then so be it don't worry aobut the pressures of age and or family and friends. and I agree with the other girls set yourself a mental deadline if you don't feel like he's changing or stringing you a long once again then its time to move on you're a beautiful girl!
Well I would have said get the hell out of there, but after reading your post a few days ago I think you are secure enough with him to wait it out a little while longer. Just don't let him take advantage of you. :)
when i ever get super upset about something like this (thankfully doesnt happen often :) ) i write a letter. its a good way to get all your feelings out, and make sure you say the statements that are most important to you. it also keeps you from saying something stupid or namecalling.
write a very serious letter. you can either give it to him, or it will be a really good rehearsal for what you really want to say to him. either way, a serious talk is in order.
1.get your thoughts, needs, and desires in order.
2. have a very serious talk
3. set a dead line and tell him about it. you better be serious about that deadline, too. if it comes and goes and you dont leave, he knows you wont ever.
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hey everyone.
Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years...March will be 5. and i knew from the momment that i heard his voice over ther phone that he was the man i wanted to marrie.. weve talked about it.. and even know what our kids names will be..but he has yet to ask... 2009 we broke up for 2 mounths, i was dateing someone and he was dateing someone..well he came back to me telling me he loves me and wants me back. so i told him that things HAD to be diffrent this time..and that if he DONT ask me to marrie him by the END of next year..then im leaveing..and if he didnt want that..dont bother getting back with me b/c its not fair to me or the guy im was talking to.. he told me that he wanted that to.. so we got back together.. well i let him know a few times through out '2010' about the marrige thing..and knew said 'i know'.. well xmiss came..and i thought he was going to ask me then...i open my gift..and it was a ring..i was happy....i look at him and said.."so is this 'THE RING'?..or just a ring?"..he told me.." no just a ring'. well dont get me wrong i love it ..but i feel like he just rubed it in my face.. and i was llike..ok maybe on new years he will ask me....new years came...and nothing.. so i dont know what to say or do anymore... i kinda feel like he lied to me when we got back together in '09 b/c he said thats what he wanted to... and now...nothing..and i think its kinda mean for giveing me a ring on xmiss KNOW what i was wateing for..and then telling me it isnt the one.. im not getting any younger.. im not even worried about a ring.. he coud just ask..so know were going SOMEWHERE.. *tear*.. i dont know what to do. need help.
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