Post # 1
Hey Bees. As many of you might have read, I am recently engaged! It takes all the strength in the world to put that (!) but my face is really like (-__-). Don’t get me wrong. I love my FI. He is the sweetest and the most wonderful man I have ever known. But, I don’t know why I am feeling down lately post-proposal.
He proposed to me in a very intimate way. I was expecting him to say more to me I guess as he was proposing but I can’t do anything about that now. I think I am also bummed that none of his parents were there to celebrate with us. I’ve only physically celebrated with my parents and 1 friend.
I think another part of me feeling down is that I realize that the “surprise” and “waiting” is now over. This might sound crazy, but I enjoyed waiting! I don’t feel the need to settle down immediately and I enjoyed that period. I know now I have wedding planning but the whole “surprise” aspect is gone.
There are ways to rectify this. His parents can come into town to celebrate with us soon. And I hope they do. But have any other bees felt similarly? Or have advice?
Post # 2
Can’t relate to your specific feelings. The ring proposal was always a formality in my eyes. My husband proposed in a public place and invited my mom. I wanted a more personal just us proposal. Neither of us can go back in time and direct our men to do it the way we wanted. Take all the time you need to just be with your fianxe before you plan your wedding.
Post # 3
DH was already living with me when he proposed. after we got engaged i didn’t feel as excited as i thought i would. i wake up before him for work and when i would look at the bed, i thought “is this really who i want to spend the rest of my life with” after i thought about it the answer was always YES.
but i’m not a highly emotional person either. i wasn’t excited wedding dress shopping. and when i found the dress i picked, i was ready to be done with it and my mom and MOH loved the dress. ( i did too just wasn’t smily/gushy over it).
no i think it is normal to not feel over the moon. i think you will have highs and lows throughout your engagement.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2016 - Chateau
I kinda felt that way, but really only “kinda”. He did it perfectly (infront of my whole family with a treasure hunt), it was filmed etc. It just felt weird that the moment I had been waiting for for so long was over. I get what you mean about the surprise being over. Its hard also because my future family in law don’t seem to feel like this proposal is valid since the wedding is so far away, so we didn’t really get any sort of congratulations from FI’s side… We did get a lovely toast from FIs father once at a family lunch, which FI’s SIL ruined by saying that she and her husband were old news apparently and FI and I are the new celebrity couple… awkward….
I just threw myself into wedding planning (2 and a half years in advance haha) and honestly I feel great and excited again. My mother has told me that the exact feeling happens after the wedding is over so I’m mentally preparing myself for that too!
I hope you feel better soon 🙂