Post # 1
My whole family is in Poland. My brother lives in England. I have been living in Canada on my own since I was 18. That’s 15 years.
I am getting married in 3.5 months and had sent invites to my mother, brothere and father (father left her when i was 5).
Anyways, I figured that my mother won’t come becasue the only way she would is if i pay for her and she is a materialistic person that tries to take advantage of me financially whenever she can so i had to cut her off a bit and only have small facebook messages here and there.
My brother said that he might come to the wedding but is not sure about his finances and he will let me know in a month.
My father: I sent him an e-mail to see if he got the invite twice and just got the reply.
The replay was about my cousin and the fact she went to england. Him complainig about my mother and rumors surrounding her about owning 16 cats and picking through garbages as she is a hoarder. And then how excited he is becasue he got a new phone. Absolutelly no mentioning of the invitation or the wedding.
Thsi is the first e-mail i got from him since January. He hasn’t even responded to the wishes i sent him on his birthday and Easter.
So i guess I am walking down the isle alone.
I am not surprised I guess but sometimes it hurts seeing and reading of all the girls having their family around them in a normal way. My family is f’d up.
Mother is a hoarder and only cares about me if i send her money (she also owns properties and stuff and always lived higher then everyone else while me and my brother ate bread with butter cuz there was no food in the house).
My father is an alcoholic and since my mother he hasn’t been in a relationship and screwed me pretty well when i moved here. He didn’t fill out the paperwork for me to stay here even though he told me and reassured me that he did till i found out that I had to leave back home. The only thing that saved me (as i didn’t want to go back to my mother) was my boyfriend at the time who offered to get married so i could stay. So we had a 200$ wedding (dress included) when i was 19.
My brother (half brother) has always been envious of me as I am 7 years younger. His father left my mother before she met my father.
So yeah. Not a normal life at all.
Post # 3
@Lulume: *HUGS* I’m so sorry that you won’t have your family at your wedding. Are you close to your FH’s family? Maybe you could walk down with his dad or something? Best of wishes.
Post # 4
@eecuadrado: thank you.
Ill wait for my brother to let me know if he is coming. If he is he can walk me if not then ill walk myself.
sux but ill be ok. Time of the month doesn’t help LOL
Post # 5
@Lulume: Aww well I hope he is able to make it! You’re a strong little lady. You go girl!
Post # 6
Sorry you’re going through this. FI’s family is a mess so he’ll only have a couple of relatives there, even though they just live 3 hours away. I know it’s tough for him. I hope you enjoy your day and look forward to building a new family! Best wishes.
Post # 7
Well, I just got an email from my brother stating that the chaqnces are the he won’t come either.
Well my co-workers and friends better sit on my side! Cuz FI has 60 people coming from his family.
Post # 8
@Lulume: hugs awe honey no one has normal life
I think if your bother can make it he might he didn’t rule it out all together
I think your mom is being cold so is your father
I know how it feels to think about going down alone, my dad was really bad on drugs always has been though he is clean now, he and I don’t get along (he even got married this year and didnt evne ask me or tell me) I got a call asking me to call him b/c his wife wants to know his daughter and he asked me nicely to meet her as she will be upset with him if he and I don’t make up
So basicly not normal sometimes family are who you make family if the birth given ones dont pan out … you likely have some amazing friends who would be outright honored to walk with you… also there is something strong to walking on your own and some people even walk with ther SO these days so there are lots of choice
you hang in there i know it sucks sometimes, I have cried thinking of no father to walk me, and the dance god that gets me every time … but it will be ok b.c. we have people who love us blood or not
and think of it this way back in the day fathers sold there daughters lol least he not making a porfit off you, thats why they used to give us away, they wanted rid of us girls were not kept or valued way back when alot of ppl married were like traded for goods or land or sheep lol
So know if you walk alone all you were traded for was heart to heart his for yours and no one is giving you away because you are going to him … thats how i look at it
Post # 10
just saw ur last post i think maybe make sign like that you will feel better
Post # 11
**HUGS** No words of wisdom just want to send you a hug 🙂
Post # 12
I”m sorry you are feeling so alone about your wedding. The good news is that on that day you will be marrying your partner/team/family and what a gift that you have that. My dad won’t walk me down the aisle because he is frightened of airplanes and my wedding is a DW in Maui. Also, my fiance’s mother probably won’t come because she doesn’t like me (or anyone) for him…. It hurts but at the end of the day, the wedding day isn’t about everyone else, it’s about you and your fiance and if your family isn’t supportive, it’s a reminder of how much this joining into HIS life/family is even more beautiful.
Hugs to you and angels on your day!