Post # 1
Ok so Fi has a friend who is a girl. (not so shocking) BUT this girl was head over heals in love with Fi. And at one point Fi kinda liked her too (He admited this to me) And during the one and only 3 month break me and Fi has had in 6 years. They went on a date. AND she would constantly talk “Sh*t” about me.
Ok so fast forward she now has a kid and was pushed into a marriage with the baby daddy. She still talks to FI. I dont like it but who am I to say who he can and can not talk to. So I have NEVER talked to this girl. Like never not even 2 words.
NOW this chick who likes my Fi and I know has talked crap about me (and has told people that she would fight me even though I dont even know this chick and have never said anything bad about her) Well now she asked me to be her friend on facebook….
Ummm am I crazy for thinking that this is a little crazy Me and Fi have been back together for almost 4 years and she has been a (for lack of a better word) A B*TCH. She still sends him messages like I miss you. and has written him on more than one occasion saying she wishes she could be with him.
I must be crazy or over reacting or am I right on thinking she is crazy and up to her bitchy ways again?
Post # 3
Heard the saying “Keep your friends close, and enemies closer?”
sounds like that’s her plan. She’s nosy and wants to see what you’re up to. It’s juvenile, but whatevs. This girl sounds so classy otherwise (heavy sarcasm)
Unless your SO is saying he misses her back, you have nothing to worry about. He’s marrying you, after all.
hit “ignore” and go about your day 🙂
Post # 4
You’re not overreacting. Husbands/FIs/Bfs CANNOT be friends with girls that like them like this. It’s not ok. If she had no feelings for him it would be okay.
What does your FI do? Does he write back to her?
Post # 5
I think if she was just friendly, I’d have no problem… but obviously she’s crossing the line, and that is not okay. He needs to shut it down. She can get her “friendship” somewhere else.
Post # 6
Funny how you don’t think your FI should tell her to back off. I’d be pissed he ALLOWS her to contact/ talk to him in the manner you describe.
Post # 7
Just hit IGNORE. She just wants to spy on you and try to live your relationship vicariously through your facebook. Creepy.
Post # 8
I’d ignore the request but I’d also be wondering why my FI was allowing this person to contact him and why he’d have any reason to still contact her considering the history.
Post # 9
my SO;s ex tried to add me on facebook on numberous occasions. i think its kinda creepy personally.
Post # 10
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
@vmec: Agreed. I think you and your FI need to sit down and talk about his relationship with this girl. Because I’d be really bothered if DH was friends with a woman who told him the things you’ve described she says. And I don’t think my problem would be with her–it’d be with him.
Post # 11
@parasol: <- This. She’s crossed the line and your FH hasn’t checked her yet? Not cool. And yes ignore her request.
Post # 12
Your FI needs to cut off all contact with her. You do have the right to ask him to do this based on the crazy things she says about you and how she still clearly has feelings for him. It’s inappropriate and disrespectful to you for him to continue to entertain her.
He’s giving her attention, just by talking to her. He’s giving her attention and in her warped view of the world, she probably thinks she has a chance with him.
I would ignore the request and tell your FI he needs to severe the “friendship”.
Post # 13
@swanks4tw: I did ignore her i just dont understand people sometimes…
@PinkMagnolia: He is really good actually! He tells her that he is with me. And she needs to stop her BS. Yes I have read his messages.
@jjmomma: I would rather them not be friends.
@vmec: I do think Fi should tell her to back off and he has…
@Crisark: I dont know why he is still friends with her but They are not close friends.
@aprose: I think is too…
@parasol:He does shut her down.
@PinkPinstripes: Thanks for that I should have a covo about her with him again I did go all crazy and delete her out of his phone and of his facebook/myspace before. But I felt so bad about it. IDK why…
Post # 14
Yup plus one.
I would ignore/block her request and I think your FI should too. There is no need for him to be friends with her.
Post # 15
You’re not overreacting. She’s a pretty pathetic nutcase. On the bright side, it doesn’t look like your FI is buying into any of it; I just hope he tells her to STFU whenever she tries to bash you.
Re: the Facebook friend invite, she’s obviously wanting to FB-stalk you to torture herself trying to figure out what’s so special about you that’s keeping your FI at your side instead of running off to be with her.
I’m a horrible person, so I would probably message her something like:
“We may not have actually met, but I feel like I know you from what FI has told me about your behavior. If you think that obsessively sending lovelorn messages to FI and trash-talking me are going to make him fall for you, then you have a very skewed perception of how love and relationships work. I’m going to go ahead and ignore your friend request now. I hope you won’t waste any more of your time torturing yourself over someone who clearly isn’t interested in your brand of crazy, and set more reasonable goals for yourself in the future. Have a nice life.”
Post # 16
@MsPanda: Forgot to say you’re right and she is crazy! I’d be deleting her everywhere and you are NOT crazy…