I don't like bridal shower and really prefer not have one – Is this normal?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
Post # 2
1 posts

I think it’s perfectly normal. A lot of people do not like parties or particular parties for one reason or another. And if I was in the same position, I would also feel guilty about not being excited after my friend planned it, but you can’t help that and shouldn’t feel bad. Maybe you should tell your friend things that you would like to see at your party so that she can more closely cater it to something you’d enjoy.

Post # 3
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I specifically asked my MOH to NOT throw me a bridal shower.

I couldn’t see the point and I didn’t need the presents.

So I think its perfectly normal to feel the way you do.

The BBQ idea, however, sounds absolutely terrific! Maybe your FSIL can gear your bridal shower to this style. 

Post # 4
632 posts
Busy bee

The BBQ idea sounds fun! I’m not having a bridal shower because I too think it’s awkward to have people watch me open gifts… Not a lot of young people I know are into them (it’s usually the older crowd that are into them). I’m not a big fan of attending bridal showers as a guest, either. Keep in mind you don’t have to have one at all, so if the BBQ thing doesn’t work out as an alternative, just scrap the whole thing! 

Post # 5
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

I think it’s normal for different people to like or not like parties or at least parties where they are the center of attention! It can be overwhelming, especially if you are shy at all. 

Your idea about a BBQ sounds like so much fun. Maybe your FSIL could use that? I know several couples that had Jack-and-Jill showers so that friends of both the bride and groom could attend. Maybe you should tell FSIL that you’d like to share the spotlight with your FI and suggest the BBQ. 

Post # 6
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I hate bridal showers, and basically begged my MOH not to throw one. She and my mom threw us a co-ed bbq, and it was perfect. We did a few games (like a newlywed game with the couples), but mainly it was just a way for our families to get to know each other better, and since we only had about 55 ppl to the wedding everyone came to this too, so by the wedding everyone had met at least once.

I know ppl will say it’s bad etiquette to complain about a party being thrown for you, and it probably is…but it’s also your party, and should be at least close to what you want. Talk to your FSIL. 

Post # 7
39 posts

katkat123:  it’s normal not to like them. They are a bit out dated. But it is not considered polite (at least near me) to decline someone who has planned on throwing you one. 

Post # 8
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

katkat123:  I hate bridal showers and did not have one. I got asked several times if people should plan one and said “no” every single time. Dont regret it at all.

I actually find them completely unneccesarry in a time when couples usually live together before marriage and many own their own home. Seems like more of a gift grab to me. And the games are AWFUL!


Post # 9
946 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

katkat123:  You are totally normal! I did not have a bridal shower because I specifically asked my mom and sister not to throw me one. My reasoning was that my bridal party was spread out across a few states and it would have been difficult to get them together. I was sad thinking of only a few people at a “shower” so I decided to drop the whole idea. Instead, my mom and sister threw a bridal brunch for just us three. We had mimosas, snacks, and they had a couple little games for just us. It was actually really nice. My bachelorette party was the night before my wedding with my bridesmaids and sister, since everyone was in town at the same time for rehearsal. It worked out wonderfully and I have great memories of not having a sad bridal shower!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 7 months ago by  MrsNebraska.
Post # 10
1822 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

katkat123:  I’m reallynot interested in the bridal shower/batch party culture.. just seems a bit cheesy and gift-grabby to me. I’d rather hae a great time with the girls (and guys!) without being the centre of attention and without inflateable cocks thank you very much.

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