(Closed) One of the In-law family members driving me crazy…

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

They got engaged on the Christmas day, it was my first Christmas here in the country so I thought people might kinda think it exciting, then they got all the attention.

Nobody’s asking any questions to me about anything and nobody seems care about me anymore.

I didn’t want her to skip the meal because she didn’t eat properly because she was alone. It seems like she didn’t really appreciate.

I think FSIL is a little on the crazy side but after reading those 3 sentences it sounds like you do want to be the center of attention. Obviously, I’m only basing that off of one post about someone I don’t even know. However this post comes off as if you are expecting it to be all about you.

I get that you want people to be excited about your wedding but not everyone is going to be. No one is as excited about your wedding as you are. 

Maybe the family makes FSIL things a big deal because she goes out of her way to make it about her. It sounds like she makes it a point to always talk about HER wedding and HER pregnancy. For all you know, people in the family may have same thoughts in their head about her as you do!

Post # 5
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1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I think you are being a little oversenstive. I know it’s hard being in another country without your family there to be excited for you. But look at it from his family’s perspecitive, your FSIL is close family and has been in their lives since she was born. Of course they are super-excited to see her get married and have a baby. They don’t really know you as well, so their reaction is obviously different.

Try to stop comparing yourself to your FSIL. Also, it sounds like she might say things to be nice (like let’s get together for dinner or I’ll let you borrow my veil), but she doesn’t mean them. Since you know that about her, don’t expect anything when she makes a vague offer like that. Just smile and nod and forget about it.

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