Post # 1
I’ll preface this with it is after 1am here so I am tired (& possibly emotional) but we just got a selection of our e-pics thru and in all but about 3 I look like a freaking house – seriously 🙁 It just got me down cos we have to choose about 10 for our guestbook and I have no idea if we’ll have enough we like.
Its not the photographer’s fault. It’s mine. I chose a top that hung badly on me so in certain photos it makes me look pregnant – on top of my already large size 24-26ish frame 🙁
And now on top of that I am in worry mode cos the wedding is in 47 days and I don’t wanna look terrible in those photos too… I don’t see me sleeping much Tonight 🙁
I just hope that when/if I sleep that when I look at them again I can see some redeeming things and actually like some.
Sigh ok yeah I don’t know why I posted… To vent… To get sympathy I dunno hehe
Post # 3
can we see them? I’m sure they’re not as bad as you think! Plus, if you really hate them, you don’t have to use them in your guest book. Most people just have a plain one!
Post # 4
I agree, lets have a look! I’m pretty sure they aren’t terrible at all. We are our worst critics. I HATED my e-pics because I had gained so much weight in the past 2 years. Grr, but they did end up just fine.
Also 47 days is enough to lose a little weight if you feel really motivated to. Up the water intake, eat more fruits and veggies, and go for a walk every day! With small changes can make big results!
Post # 5
I’ve said it before, we are our own worst critics. I understand how you feel, because I pick apart photos of myself all the time. Other people will tell me I look good and all i can see are the flaws. I am willing to bet that everyone who looks at those photos of you and your Fiance are only going to see how happy and in love you are. Try not to focus on what you hate about them and look for something you like. I know, easier said than done, but I bet it will make you feel better about them.
Post # 6
I did that too. I picked a dress that made my upper body look huge, so when I looked at the pictures I disliked a lot of them. I’ve learned to love them. I gave our engagement CD to my fiance’s mom and she chose a few to put in her house. All of the ones she chose were the ones I hated! Our photographer did the same thing on her blog…but they still received a million compliments. That’s what I realized that no one was seeing them the way that I was. They didn’t see my “fat” upper body, they just saw a beautiful picture of two people in love! That’s when I started loving the pictures. You just have to look past your insecurities, really.
Post # 7
I’ll put a couple up in the morning… One I like (that looks like what I think I look like) and a few I don’t – I just have to edit out faces cos I don’t like my pic up on the Internet so it may not be too helpful 🙂
I have been at the gym and eating healthy for the whole year engagement BUT I believe my BC injection is preventing me from losing weight cos I am fluctuating around the same 5kg gain & lose mark – it is bugging me which I think is why I was so upset cos I work so hard at losing weight and yet I have been the same size now since about 2009 🙁
Post # 8
First off, Congratulations on getting married!
And although I’m sorry to hear that you are not happy with your e-pics, the bigger picture is, you’re tying the knot together soon!! I’m sure the photos aren’t that bad!!! You know how us females are: we’re more criticial of ourselves then we need to be.
With that said, I’m wondering if there’s anyway the photographer would consider retaking the photos? I can’t imagine that you are the first woman to not be happy with their photos. Also, any good photographer would know how to take flattering photos that would bring out the beauty and features of any woman. As an unhappy customer, I would bring that up… of course in a nice way.
Relax 47 days is still a lot of time! At least enough to get new photos.
As for the big day, I hate to say it…you have really a couple of ideas:
- Start eating heathly and excercises – like I said, 47 days is still a good amount of time. Sometimes even giving up something like snacks, choclate and or sugar for 30 days makes a difference.
- Take a look at the mirror and really check yourself out – are there certain ways you can stand/pose that are more flattering? I find that if I put my hand on my waist for photos (as opposed to having my arms/hands hang straight), it actually makes my arms look skinnier
- Smile and be confident – The camera will pick up EVERYTHING, especially your emotions. Therefore, you’ll want to look and feel confident.
- Take a break? Is it possible to not think about the wedidng for 3 days so that you’re not emotionally drained?
Good luck! I’m sure your wedding will be BEAUTIFUL!
Post # 9
I’ll let you know a secret: I HATED MY E-PICS! I thought I looked really awful, just a badly fitting outfit, stood awkwardly, makeup different from my usual so i felt uncomfortable with it, and basically messed up most of my shots. I’m a size 2–so it happens regardless of size!
After some time, when I was less emotional, I took another look. And I started to like the photos more, and over time I liked them more and more. I could see imperfections and whatnot but in some the sheer lovey-doveyness between Fiance and I made me not care about the other issues. I really even came to eventually love some of those photos, although there are some I STILL avoid and cringe at…..but everyone else loves! A lot of that feeling is that we are our own worst critics, and we have the highest expectations for ourselves. Hopefully, you too will come to like the photos more with time–I’m guessing they are not nearly as bad as you think!
Post # 10
Ok i was still awake so came and edited some pics for WB viewing 🙂
Right this time thru i didnt HATE as many – i still dont like them all thou…
One i like – size wise this is what i look like (IMO) it helps that my shirt is not billowing out…
And some i dont like – sitting (yes i know bad pose for a bigger girl) and standing – yes i am aware it is mainly shirt here BUT my arms also blah…
Post # 11
I think these are beautiful 🙂 You do not look like a ‘lump’ or anything like that! Seriously, I was expecting far worse but these are so pretty!
Post # 12
@ShellVee: You look great!! I love the first picture!
Post # 13
@ShellVee: i don’t think they look bad at all! People aren’t going to be pointing out all your insecurities, I promise you. I think the poses are adorable and very typical for e-pics.
Post # 14
You are my arm twin!
I think the photos are great….we are our own worst critics, huh?
Post # 15
Hey there you look great, love the last one, its great. Like eerybody else have said, whats important is the love the two of yu share, everything else dont matter. Ja continue exercising and eating well. Its not about weight loss but feeling good and having a toned body regardless of size.
Post # 16
Hi! I get your point, but IMO, there is nothing unflattering about the first one? I think that’s a lovely photo!