Post # 1
hi bees, im new to the boards…
we got engaged in May – sooo happy about it!!!!
anyway at the time we were living in a small town, and my FI proposed with a cheap ring and said we would choose a “proper” ring when we got home (we were moving home the following month) as there is more selection in a big city rather than the small place we were living in.
well NO, i couldnt wait to get home, i needed a ring then and there to show my friends and family and so we went to the local jeweller and i picked out a princess cut white gold ring, (i always wanted princess cut) , which is worth A LOT.
i loveeeed it at the time, was so wrapped with it – but now since coming home and seeing all the other girls around me getting engaged with their rings, AND discovering pinterest and seeing all the beautiful cushion cut rings etc, i have SERIOUS regret. i hate showing people it cos its not a very very nice ring in hindsight.
its sharp with harsh corners and its not 1 big stone its 4 wee stones in one.
the problem is I PICKED IT – STUPID ME FOR NOT WAITING!!! i cant tell my fiancee cos he spent so much money and i feel like the biggest b***!!!
but im really not happy with it and ill be stuck with it forever!!!!
WHAT CAN I DO???? please help!!! every time someone asks me to see my ring i hate it and pull my hand back so quick.
Post # 3
You chose the ring, you could have waited until you got home. You loved it at the time, you will love it again 🙂
Post # 5
id change it. your stuck with it forever otherwise and will be unhappy. hindsight is a pain!!!
before you tell your fiancee though i would check out pawn stores as you say before you do in case you cant swap it or something and hurt his feelings for no reason …..
Post # 6
Maybe he can layaway you one at a bigger jeweler.
Post # 7
I would imagine it’s not nearly as bad as you feel it is. I cannot advocate you “losing” it or anything else like that….comparing your ring to the others your friends have is pretty destructive, I would stop that if I could. And remember, you still need a wedding band, perhaps you have an opportunity to pair your e-ring with a band that compliments it…or a trade in for a stand alone that you prefer.
Post # 8
I am sorry you feel this way. It sounds really beautiful. It doesn’t sound like its not your taste anymore, just that maybe you don’t love it as much as you wished you did. Seeing so many other rings can def cause this.
Have you thought of maybe getting a right hand ring for an anniversary? One with another shape that you like?
Post # 9
Most of the time you can take it back and get a refund and pick a different one……how long have you had it??
I just returned a diamond for a different one with no hassle. Many of us have had ring regret. But princess cuts are beautiful! (I have one…lol) We would love to see a pic!
Post # 10
Maybe focus on finding a kick-ass wedding band for now? If you stay unhappy with the ring, you could upgrade for an anniversary.
Post # 11
I agree that hindsight can be 20/20, but in this siutation I think you should let it go and learn how to fall in love with your ring again. It’s really a matter of putting it to rest in your mind. Also….you loved this ring until other external influences came into the picture. Trust me, Pinterest doesn’t have emotions that will get hurt by you wanting a new ring, but your fiance probably does.
If I bought my partner an expensive ring of her own choosing and then she told me she changed her mind and wanted a different one, I’d be devastated.
Post # 12
@Jabberwocky: +1. Upgrading at a later date is always a great option. If you don’t love it in 2 or 3 years, upgrade!
Post # 13
It also might help to give it a good cleaning and make it super sparkly again.
Post # 14
thanks for the help guys – it does help!!!!
i know its my own fault im too impatient and my fiancee is always right – i shoulda waited!! GRRR.
its been 5 months and i still dont like it. i cant exchange it at the place we brought it cos it was in a different country 🙁 and he resized it for me etc.
i feel terrible and feel like i cant say anything to my FI cos he works so hard and its so much money.
will try post pics tonight of it….
i think i need to just suck it up … for now anyway
Post # 15
ps we brought the wedding band with the ring as they were a matching set so the wedding band idea is out – was a good one thou.
Post # 16
I think you need to learn to love it for now… but maybe just changing the stone and keeping your setting could be an option. If not now, could be for an anniversary