I dont like my free wedding invites! Had anyone gone through this?

posted 2 years ago in DIY
Post # 2
332 posts
Helper bee

Simplyjess:  Then have your own made. When you accept something as “free”, your expectations really shouldn’t be all that high and you don’t really have a ton of room to complain. 

Post # 3
453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Just order them elsewhere. Tell him you truly appreciate his offer and time spent already but you have your mind set on something else. He will understand. 

Post # 4
721 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

When are you sending these out? Are you printing them out yourself? 

It’s difficult when it comes to getting wedding things for free because you want to be thankful but still don’t want to just be really passive. Ie: I have a girlfriend who is designing my tote bags for free and was supposed to have them for me last month. Granted she has a bit of time (wedding is in 7 months) but it can still be a little aggravating. 

I’m sorry you’re going through this so close to the wedding. I hope you get it sorted out. 

Post # 5
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Simplyjess:  Can’t you go and sit with him and guide him while he plays around with the font?  We are DIYing ours and have fiddled and moved things around 3-4 times after printing because they didn’t look perfect

Post # 6
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

Simplyjess:  Sort of … FI’s sister owns a stationery company and is a graphic designer. She sent a proof of what she thought and I was able to send an email back saying I liked certain things and didn’t like something else. She ended up coming up with a design that I like. Your uncle already printed them though … So I am not sure how you could do it since he didn’t send a proof in the first place. Good luck

Post # 7
7147 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

If you think you can work with his design and improve it, why not tell him you were inspired by the sample he showed you, and you have some ideas you’re wondering if he would implement. This way if he doesn’t have time, you can offer to get them done elsewhere. If he does have time, you need to be in the room with him while he’s doing it, otherwise you risk disappointment again. Good luck. 

Post # 8
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is always a risk when you get a job done out of the goodness of someone’s heart. However, it’s not always easy to read people’s minds either – and I say this as a graphic designer – because I know my heart would sink if I got a client instruction that involved the words “use a nice font”. How, with respect, is your uncle supposed to know what sort of font qualifies?

I agree with pps that you need to sit down in front of his computer with him and ask him to make the relevant changes then and there. That way you make your views clear and he can do the job to your specification. If you’ve only got 7 weeks to go before your wedding you don’t have time to keep second-guessing each other. 

Post # 9
250 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

This is why we are not accepting free help from anyone (even our family). I know even the nicest of people will “use it against you”. We are paying everyone who contributes (aunt is doing cake, uncle is chef, etc etc) so that when it comes down to it, they don’t have the option to say “oh well since I am doing it for free, it’s going to be my way.”

My grandma does this all the time. The nicest lady and I wouldn’t be who I am without her but every time she offers to pay for something, there’s a hidden motive behind it. if it doesn’t go her way, she’s not affraid to pull the “well it’s my money” card. 

I’m not saying your uncle will do that to you but this is my experience accepting help from people for free


Post # 10
4587 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Can you go back to him and advise what you’d like to have them changed at all? If someone is offering to make your invitations, they should make sure that you’re satisfied with the end results and got everything that you visioned.

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