Post # 1
My uncle offered to make my wedding invitations (he is very creative)this was said 5 months ago my wedding is in 7weeks last week I called him and ask if I could have them no later than the second week of aug he brought me a sample today My first glance was I like them they are cute when I got home I inspected them (I had sent him the wording through and email just as I wanted all he had to do was copy paste and change the don’t into a nice font) The wording was in all the wrong in navy blue color areas ! I had asked him and reminded him that i wanted the church info and reception info seperate and not on the same page. It was all and the same invite seperated by a navy blue ribbon the ribbon seperate the time of church and the address of the church and continued with the reception wording. It was worded in celebration of thier marrige September two thousand (next line) fourteen at two o’clock in the afternoon I was like wtf?! So I called him and asked if he could use every word as is on the email which I actually resent and edited the font exactly how I wanted it so he could just print it out. Not to mention the I wanted the word honour instead of honor which he used. the invite was white with pearl swirls which I didnt like I really expected something nice simple yet elegant I feel he kinda Just put something together I hate them I really want to get my own made and sent those out to some of my guests
Post # 2
Simplyjess: Then have your own made. When you accept something as “free”, your expectations really shouldn’t be all that high and you don’t really have a ton of room to complain.
Post # 3
Just order them elsewhere. Tell him you truly appreciate his offer and time spent already but you have your mind set on something else. He will understand.
Post # 4
When are you sending these out? Are you printing them out yourself?
It’s difficult when it comes to getting wedding things for free because you want to be thankful but still don’t want to just be really passive. Ie: I have a girlfriend who is designing my tote bags for free and was supposed to have them for me last month. Granted she has a bit of time (wedding is in 7 months) but it can still be a little aggravating.
I’m sorry you’re going through this so close to the wedding. I hope you get it sorted out.
Post # 5
Simplyjess: Can’t you go and sit with him and guide him while he plays around with the font? We are DIYing ours and have fiddled and moved things around 3-4 times after printing because they didn’t look perfect
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
Simplyjess: Sort of … FI’s sister owns a stationery company and is a graphic designer. She sent a proof of what she thought and I was able to send an email back saying I liked certain things and didn’t like something else. She ended up coming up with a design that I like. Your uncle already printed them though … So I am not sure how you could do it since he didn’t send a proof in the first place. Good luck
Post # 7
If you think you can work with his design and improve it, why not tell him you were inspired by the sample he showed you, and you have some ideas you’re wondering if he would implement. This way if he doesn’t have time, you can offer to get them done elsewhere. If he does have time, you need to be in the room with him while he’s doing it, otherwise you risk disappointment again. Good luck.
Post # 8
This is always a risk when you get a job done out of the goodness of someone’s heart. However, it’s not always easy to read people’s minds either – and I say this as a graphic designer – because I know my heart would sink if I got a client instruction that involved the words “use a nice font”. How, with respect, is your uncle supposed to know what sort of font qualifies?
I agree with pps that you need to sit down in front of his computer with him and ask him to make the relevant changes then and there. That way you make your views clear and he can do the job to your specification. If you’ve only got 7 weeks to go before your wedding you don’t have time to keep second-guessing each other.
Post # 9
This is why we are not accepting free help from anyone (even our family). I know even the nicest of people will “use it against you”. We are paying everyone who contributes (aunt is doing cake, uncle is chef, etc etc) so that when it comes down to it, they don’t have the option to say “oh well since I am doing it for free, it’s going to be my way.”
My grandma does this all the time. The nicest lady and I wouldn’t be who I am without her but every time she offers to pay for something, there’s a hidden motive behind it. if it doesn’t go her way, she’s not affraid to pull the “well it’s my money” card.
I’m not saying your uncle will do that to you but this is my experience accepting help from people for free
Post # 10
Can you go back to him and advise what you’d like to have them changed at all? If someone is offering to make your invitations, they should make sure that you’re satisfied with the end results and got everything that you visioned.