- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
I have to admit – I don’t particularly like my MIL. She’s a passive-aggressive, judgmental know-it-all that’s assumed the worse about me even when we first met. I’ve tried to kill her with kindness, been respectful, and flat-out ignored her rude comments (which thankfully, doesn’t come too often). So far the ignoring and agreeing works but it’s hard for me to look past her previous comments and assumptions.
She basically thinks I had forced my way into my (then) Fi’s apartment and freeloaded off of him. Instead of asking anything — she just assumed. Instead of asking how long we’ve known each other, she assumed we just met (because Fi never told her about his personal life, so she yet again assumed he never had one to begin with). At first I tried to understand and let it go. But it was more and more obvious what she thought of me. Why she came to these conclusions, sadly my only guess would be race-related.
As for the money assumptions, she should know now that I have and had my own bank account and pay for things on my own. She also knows now how long we’ve known each other and how we fell in love — I made a wedding website with our story in it just for her. I didn’t want to throw it in her face so it was the only way at the time.
It’s Christmas soon and we usually spend a day with them and I’m dreading to go. Her daughter is just like her and dealing with both of of them together makes me cringe. Last Christmas, they ganged up on me trying to convince me to read! Yes, as IF I’m illiterate — I read epic fantasy books for goodness sakes!!!
This year would be our first Christmas as husband and wife and I’m hoping things will change — yet I still don’t want to go.
Do you have any family members you don’t particularly like? How do you cope during the holidays? How do you deal with it normally?
I should mention that MIL doesn’t really have any friends (surprise, surprise) and her gardening hobby doesn’t occupy her during the winter months — making it harder.