I don't like our wedding VENT.. :'(

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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491 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

You should do whatever you want. If you want to cancel it, do it. This is YOUR wedding and no one elses. Don’t live with regret, just do it your way!

Post # 4
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1560 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@leahlou:  This is supposed to be a happy (although stressful at points!) time in your life, and I’m sorry you’ve been deprived of that. So what if STD’s went out? You can still change your plans. If it was me, I would probably take what money we had and elope somewhere, just you and your FI. The hell with everyone else, honestly. Good luck!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It is YOUR wedding and you should not listen to anybody else than your FI and not even talk about your wedding with anyone else if they push you to do something you don’t want! I’m so happy that I don’t have any people like that around me, I can just discuss with my FI and let everyone know what we’ve decided! And all of them are just happy about everything.

If I was you I would cancel the wedding because it is NOT going to be what you’ve wanted! After the wedding you might be angry to all those people who pushed you to do it like they want! So please let people know that you need more time to save money for the dream wedding.

Or then write the same letter to everyone just listed and explain how you feel about everything. I think you should be selfish and have your wedding in a place that your MOH told you not to have. Your wedding is first and her’s is so many years away!!!

Please do something, you’re the one who can decide about everything!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@leahlou:  I’m sorry for all the stress! I agree with the PP — do what you want. If you and your FI just want to spend what you have on a nice weekend elopement at a favorite beach or mountain retreat and then have a bigger bbq when you get back (perhaps at a public park, if not at your FI’s family’s property), do it. If you want to do vows at the county courthouse and then have lunch for 20 people at your favorite restaurant after, then do that.

Also, re: MOH. Seriously, her wedding is more than four years away. You don’t even know if she will still be with her fiance then. It’s totally unreasonable of her to “claim” a venue so far in advance. If you want to have your wedding at that venue, then have it. If she’s a drama queen about it, then you’ll know she’s not really a worthy friend.

Other plan: if you do want to have the dream dress, fancier venue/food, etc. you could also consider waiting a year or two and save up for it. Don’t worry about the STDs, life intervenes and people push back events all the time. I hope things get easier!

Post # 7
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227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m so sorry you’re in this position, when you’re right, this should be one of the happiest times of your life.

You could always just go to a courthouse and be married there. I know it’s not most women’s dream wedding, but it could still be a beautiful day. Buy a white dress you love, dress your FI in a nice suit, and see if you have any friends who can take some nice pictures for you.

Then, in a few years maybe your financial situation will be a little better, and you can have a vowel renewel ceremony and have your dream wedding then. 

Don’t let yourself be bullied by your friends; they don’t seem to be very good friends anyway. 

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