- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013 - Lake Anna Winery
I love my man and can’t wait to be married. He’s wonderful and we love each other more than life.
But I hate our wedding. Nothing is going right.
We decided to do it on his family’s property. Because of my job loss and other situations, FI’s mom, my parents, nor us have much or any money to put towards it.
We’re working with what we have and I was content with that. But, I have gotten NO good reviews from ANYONE, including my family, my mom, all my bridesmaids, and my father, about the property because of how much work we need to do. I’m about to just cry and wanting to just cancel it. But that’s not an option for my FI or really anyone else since we’ve already gotten the Save The Dates out.
This is just not what I wanted. I thought this would be fun and the most romantic, loving time of my life. But it’s not.
My FI and his family’s idea of a wedding is just a big bbq after saying “I do” while I’d like it to be just a little more special, somewhere we don’t have to work our butts off, decorated, and just plain easier, but still very laid back and fun. But we’re still at conflict with that.
I’m at a loss of what to do. I’m tired of conflict and compromising and arguing about EVERYTHING for this wedding.
I hope I don’t sound ungrateful or snobbish. But I dread looking back on this time and thinking, I regret every single thing and that wedding was nothing I wanted it to be.
I don’t even have my wedding dress I’ve always dreamed of because of budget.
To add to all of this:
My mom: FI and she don’t get along. She has always been tough on me to the point that she really hurts my self-esteem. She also does not approve of my FI let alone the wedding.
My MOH: won’t stop talking about HER wedding that’s not until 2017. She even kept an inexpensive venue from me because she wants to get married there.
My bridesmaids: One is flaky and hasn’t even gotten her dress yet, I’m in another one’s wedding and there’s conflict there, and the other is getting engaged soon and doesn’t have much time for me.
My soon to be MIL: She’s very controlling, stuck in her ways, and talks to FI constantly. She’s not very feminine so talking to her about the wedding is worse than talking with my Dad about it.
My Dad: He’s 84. I was a surprise baby. He was diagnosed with dementia and does well some days and sometimes not.
And those are just people close to me..
So what should I do?
I’m pretty much stuck getting it over with and moving on with our lives. I just hate that. I don’t feel like a bride.
I just want support and I can’t find it.
I know at the end of the day, all that matters is that we’re married and happy, but I wanted a special wedding that I’m proud of :'(