Post # 1
I am marrying my best friend and it will be on the beach. I was told that plenty of brides that have destination weddings buy bridesmaid dresses and then order them in white and you wouldnt even be able to tell its not a bridal gown. So it sounded great my budget was small this is my second wedding so I think my budget was so small because of the been there done that mentality. MISTAKE I have the dress and dont love it and my wedding is July 28. I ordered beautiful accesoories from etsy that I love more than the dress. I just dont feel that it is flattering I am a street size 14 and it really does nothing for me honestly. I also just moved to another state so I have no one near me to share in y wedding plans The next time I see my mom will probably be at the wedding. Everyone is kind of brushing me off with the “dont be ridiculous girl he is marrying you not the dress” “this is not your first wedding you should know its not about the dress”. Honestly duh yes I know these things but my first wedding was huge 110 people rolls royce limos and not for me for our parents I was 21. Im older now love my husband/ best friend its about us and our union but I still want to be gorgeous is that wrong I dont feel like a bride at all in the other dress.
I was bigger when I got married the first time that dress wasa size 18 Im smaller, sexier, curvier. Am i realizing a little to late that I want to embrace those things and celebrate this time feeling radiant. Or do I just give it up because it is a “second” wedding and I should be over that….
Post # 3
This is the dress I dont love it does nothing for my waist. UUGGHHH im sad
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy
I hear you. I’m in the same boat. . Kind of.. And all I can really say is, it’s a beautiful dress. You have been responsible. Can you take it to a seamstress to talk about your options when it comes to addressing your concerns? A seamstress can often work wonders.. And change how you feel about the dress with a little stitch or two.
Also, think about a sash to draw attention to your waist. It’s hard to see detail in the picture, but if it works it might make the difference
Post # 5
Just because it’s a second wedding doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be allowed to feel gorgeous! Why don’t you check around your town and see if you can buy a new dress from a bridal store off the rack? You might find something you love and even if it needs a few alterations you’ve still got time for minor stuff 🙂 You can always sell the dress you don’t like much to pay for the new dress.
Post # 6
I got married almost a month ago, and it was a second wedding for both of us. I disliked so muhc about my first wedding. Even though we just eloped at City Hall for this wedding, it was much more intimate and so much more “us”. Anyway, just b/c its your second marriage doesn’t mean ANYTHING. You deserve to have a dress that you feel good in. I bought my dress at a department store (and happened to have a coupon so it was around $100 – SCORE), once the alterations were done, I felt fantastic in my dress. I actually loved it so much I bought it in another color to wear for other events. The point is, you deserve that too. If you still like your dress, any chance alterations could help make you feel more gorgeous in it? You do look fantastic from the picture, but I completely get that it’s all about how you feel. What if you got a pretty sash to help define your waist further? Or… what about a new dress? Certainly you could find something at a department store or even something off the rack. Even though you’d be cutting it close, you could find a sample, a dress online (I bought the dress I intended to wear but didn’t for a litany of reasons as a sample dress online for a steal), or even something off the rack at David’s.
Post # 7
@secureinhislove: Actually I am sort of in the same boat – I love my dress but the lady at the salon ordered one size too big (WHY???) so the corset does nothing to slim me down.
I really feel down about it.
Good luck lady
Post # 8
I was feeling in a similar way a couple of weeks ago. I didnt want a big, fancy dress for my wedding, i just wanted something simple, so that’s what i ordered. Looking back at the photos from the shop though, the dress just didnt seem to look right to me (I think part of the problem was coming on here and looking at all the lovely dresses that other people put on their posts). After trawling around on here for a answer though, i found that what seemed to be simplest solution is to add a detailed sash, whether blingy or floral.
Etsy certainly has lots of different sashes. Why dont you have a look on there and see if any of them catches your eye. It could be all you need to make your dress perfect.
Post # 9
It’s not too late to explore other ‘off the rack’ options! Try making an appointment at David’s Bridal and only looking at dresses that wouldn’t need extensive alterations. Or search Etsy and find something you think would be more flattering for your shape on a budget and then talk to the seller about express shipping.
Post # 10
@secureinhislove: Really? You don’t like it? I think it looks great on you and would be perfect for the beach! What if you tried it on with a sash like Pps suggest?
I am not in love with my dress either, I loved it at first but oh well, my wedding is in 2 weeks there is little to do about it now. I am determined to make the best of it.
Post # 11
Have you thought about looking at some sites where you can purchase dresses and get them immediately> For instance, I have about 7 brand new with tag (not sample) dresses listed for sale on Tradesy, Oncewed and Preownedweddingdresses.com. My dresses will generally fit sizes 16-20W. They range in price from $200- $1000 for a Kleinfeld couture gown. They vary in retail for $600- $3400. I have strapless, a-line, sheath, fit and flare, halter, etc. a little of everything. PM me if you are interested. Good luck on your dress decision!!!