Post # 1
So, I’m looking online for ideas for wedding bands that might fit my e-ring, and I’m realizing that there is none. Awhile back, FI and I went to Zale’s and I tried on several styles of bands and I couldn’t find one that actually looks right with my ring. I don’t know much about rings or how to describe them, but it’s a princess cut and there is a wheel of tiny diamonds that spins under the solitare one. I couldn’t find a picture online, and I’m at work so can’t upload a picture of mine, but it looks like this:
but with a wheel of tiny diamonds under the prongs. When FI proposed, it was totally unexpected, and he chose my ring on his own. I like it, and some days I love it, but really it’s not my dream ring and anytime I see gorgeous rings on someone else, I wish I could have that too. Do I quit being materialistic and suck it up, or should I tell him how I feel? I love him very much and I certainly don’t want to hurt his feelings, and I appreciate that he was brave enough to pick out the ring on his own. Which, really, he did a good job of, but as the days go by, I like the ring less and less. The ring is pretty simply, and I’m more of a bling lover. He spent way more than I was expecting on the ring, so I would hate for it to just not be in use. But ugh idk what to do!
Post # 3
Keep it and get a blingy wedding band. Keep it and get a wedding band that will match your future upgrade ring that you will one day get. Keep it and get a band that you like and wear it on your right hand or not at all (my friend doesn’t wear her ering anymore, not sure why, but she just chooses not to). There are options where you don’t necessarily have to tell him right now that you don’t like your ering, unless you think he can handle that?
Post # 4
Sounds like you’re saying it has a “halo”. Generally, halo rings are considered the “blingy” rings, so I’m not sure what you mean you’d like. A bigger center stone? You may want to familiarize yourself with diamond prices…they go up exponentially with size. I’m guessing that yours is the size your FI could afford, and he chose a halo setting to make it look bigger. If you are basing your wants on what celebrities wear, please understand those are extraordinarily expensive rings… sometimes the celeb can’t actually afford it. They are playing a showy game and it has nothing to do with real life at all. It can be a nasty surprise when you realize how much these suckers actually cost, but it can help you see your ring in a whole new light and appreciate it for what it is.
I see diamonds as little slices of beauty. They are dainty and gorgeous and magical looking, like pixies, or the spark at the tip of a sorcerer’s wand, lol. They don’t need to be gargantuan and frankly I find after a certain size start to they lose attractiveness to me.
Post # 5
I have posted about how I didn’t like my original engagement ring. I was fairly sure that my FI wouldn’t be horribly offended if I talked to him, and he did understand. I recently got a moissanite halo that I really love.
You said sometimes you love your e-ring, so maybe a blingy wedding band will do just the trick! OP, please post a photo of your ring. I am sure one of the Bees would have a good idea for a wedding band to go with it!
If you keep thinking it really isn’t your style, I do advise to think carefully about how your FI would take it. Obviously I know where you are coming from and it is important you like your engagement ring. How long have you had the ring- it isn’t still returnable, is it?
Post # 6
I’m sorry 🙁 You need to LOVE your ring. I am not a fan of upgrade rings mostly because I think your engagement ring is special. My fi picked the stone we started with a simple setting and had the stone moved into something I picked later. Shes right you can either pick a blingy band or 2 one on each side or you can be honest with hm and tell him you’d like a blingier ring.
This is what I strted with
This is what I have now, and I went from 14k to silver because thats what I love. I hope it helps. Please post a pic when u can of your actual ring.
Post # 7
@joya_aspera: I dont always agree with some of your comments, but here you are spot on! I have a .5 center stone (and .25 on the band) with fantastic specs and sometimes I get a little size envy, but then I remember that size and bling isnt everything. You either pay the $$$$$ or sacrifice quality. Proof of that is a newly engaged friend of mine who has a 2+ carat wedding set but the center diamond obviously has inclusions, is yellow and dull. =(
Post # 8
@futuremrsk18: I thought about getting a wedding band I really like and maybe that’ll satisfy me, but it’s going to be hard to find one that’ll match my e-ring, much less one that I super like. But I guess I can try to stay positive and hope I can find it!
@joya_aspera: I’m pretty sure it’s not a halo? Yeah, I understand what you’re saying. However, I have found some that I love that cost around the same price as FI spent on my current one, and it bums me out knowing I could have had them!
@chocolatecoveredstrawberry: I’m in the process of posting a pic. I figured out I can upload a picture from my phone, so I will do that once my phone charges enough to have flash on the camera. lol. Sorry about my newness to pic posting! … and I’ve had the ring for a year and a half, so no, it’s not returnable.
@Gypsybarbi: Ooooh gorgeous ring! See, I want to be in love with mine just as you are with yours! I agree that the original e-ring is special, so that’s one reason why I’m kind of iffy about saying anything. I’d still consider sucking it up and possible upgrading later if I can’t find a band that helps me love it, though.
Post # 9
Would a custom band be an option? That might help if you can’t find anything.
Post # 10
@Jabberwocky: Never thought about that, but I can look into it! Good idea!
Ok and my phone won’t let me post the pics. I got to the “upload pic” link and it won’t load my pics so I can choose one to upload. Ugh. I’ll have to do it from my home computer!
Post # 11
maybe an eternity band or semi-eternity would be nice and blingy. i have a solitaire too, and a 1 carat tw wedding band, so that really adds sparkle to a simple solitaire i’ve found.
Post # 12
@lilsweetie: Ooooh that looks really good! Mine is just kind of weird because of the wheel under the solitaire. When FI gave me the ring, he said there was a band that specifically matched my e-ring, but when we went back a year later to Zale’s, they had no clue what we were asking about
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2013 - Creek club at ion, SC
Im all for telling fiances the truth about whether you like presents but im sorry i cant apply this to engagement rings. Would you really love the new ring or would you feel guilty every time you looked at it. When someone proposes to you with a certain ring that ring has an immense amount of sentimental value which can not be replaced by buyng a new one.
Id build on it. Tell him you love the ring but you want to add a little bling and also want a blingy wedding band. Maybe you guys could do that together, go to jewelers see what you options are design it together and that way you keep your original ring and get your bling and all the sentimental jazz.
You may have seen rings you prefer for a lower price but were the five C’s the same level? You may be substituting a near flawless diamond for a cloudy one.
Post # 14
@MissJuicy: Thank You:0) I understand why you want to keep the ring because your fi picked it, and not wanting to hurt him. I know you can find a band or bands you love even if it means getting them designed, then it has your style too. I’ve done the marriage thing before and never loved my ring so when Keith and I talked aout getting married we agreed that we would pick my ring together. I did let him pick the bands because it was very important to him. I do think the pick you posted is beautiful. If zales didn’t know what you were talking about, go to zales.com and e-mail them if you have too. They will do whatever it takes to get you the band that matches. I’ve had very good expierences with them. xoxoxo