i don't need a diagnosis, but i do need encouragement

posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
10454 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

@sadbee80:  If you’re thinking about harming yourself, that’s an emergency and you should treat it as such.

If you’re feeling more stable, see your doctor and they can refer you to where you need to be.  It’s up to you if you get your DH to go with you, if he’s willing to go with you.  There may be aspects where the doctor wants to talk to you without him present though.

I hope you’re able to find the appropriate treatment quickly!

Post # 4
1887 posts
Buzzing bee

@sadbee80:  You should go to a mental health clinic where they are specialized in helping with this sort of thing.  They see people who suffer like this all the time.  It is very familiar to them and they will know how help you.  I will pray for you!

Post # 5
9207 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

This is a serious situation, and you do need to seek out a therapist for an official diagnosis, but your symptoms are similar to mine (although FI I don’t lash out at) so I know where you’re coming from. There is help out there for you.

Post # 6
1355 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

Mental health clinic. Don’t use your general practitioner as a middleman — many times, they will prescribe something rather than doing a referral, and in my opinion, general practitioners should not diagnose or treat mental illness. This is a specialty and requires a specialist.

Post # 7
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Suicidal thoughts are DEFINITELY something that need to be checked out like YESTERDAY!!! Please go get help!!

Post # 8
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

It is DEFINITELY time for therapy–think about your FI, who you admit to verbally abusing!

Post # 9
14 posts

Sounds a lot like I use to be.  Try counseling and take a deep breath.  you’ll be fine.

Post # 10
3360 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Yes, these are things that should be checked out. ASAP.

I wish you all the best, I have battled depression on and off most my adult life, so I know how hard it can be.

Post # 11
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I second the PP’s who suggested counseling and a mental health clinic – especially if you’re having suicidal thoughts.

Post # 12
2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think your regular DR is just going to refer you to a therapist, so keep that in mind. I’d reccomend skipping your GP and going directly to a clinic.

Though make sure it’s a good clinic – do some research, read some reviews.

And BTW, don’t expect to find the right therapist for you right off the bat… sometimes it takes a few tries, but is very much worth it to find someone you’re comfortable with.

Post # 13
2367 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Get to a mental health professional, ASAP!  Depending on where you are located, the best place to start would probably be the referral line at your local hospital.  Give the person who answers a basic idea of what’s going on, and he/she can direct you to a few therapists that focus in the areas that you need help in.  I know it sounds weird to give a random receptionist an idea of what you’re dealing with, but therapists specialize in different areas.  A therapist that focuses on children may not be able to help you as much.  The other nice thing about going through your hospital system is that assuming your hospital is even remotely modern, your records will cross reference.  So if you ever have an emergency situation, they can see what meds you’re on, they can contact your therapist right away, etc, even if you don’t have that info at hand.




Post # 14
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Yes, you should seek help. You do not have to go on feeling this way. Although I would say I’m currently experiencing pretty normal moods, I have a history of dysthymia and severe depressive episodes, which led to a suicide attempt at 17 and many, many other times of thinking about it. I am medicated and stable, but it’s taken a lot of work to get here. However, the journey has been absolutely worth it, since I’m able to live a much more satisfying and productive life

ETA: feel free to PM me if you would like to talkor have any questions about my experiences. I’ve been in the mental health system as both a patient and a care provider

Post # 15
919 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@sadbee80:  get therapy ASAP.And it might be really hard, but you have to be as honest as you can be in therapy.

I used to be occasionally violent and after a while in therapy I realized that I needed to admit those things, otherwise I wasn’t going to get the help I needed for it.

Something you can do in the meantime is when you are feeling anxious, overwhelmed, suddenly angry, and impulsive, try breathing in and out in, slow, deep breathes like in through the nose and out through your mouth. Try counting in your head slowly to ten.

Another thing you could do is try to remind yourself every day of certain things, like writing on an index card “I will not react violently to H” or something like that. Read it every day, remind yourself. Similar thing with the self-harm, “I will not hurt myself today.” It sounds silly but it can help.

Post # 16
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

@sadbee80:  Oh you poor thing!  Definitely go to a mental health clinic – many places have free / subsidized clinics if you need that, or get a recommendation from your general doc.  Definitely take your husband with you!  I’m sure he’ll want to learn as much as possible about your condition and also just be there to support you.

DEFINITELY go see someone asap though!  Untreated mental health issues can cause damage to your brain and make the condition worse.

I don’t want to go into too much detail, but my husband has a mental health condition that was very severe in the past.  He’s now on medication and is about 95% back to new.  I came with him to many of his appointments and we work as a team to get the condition under control.  I’m sure your husband will want to do the same for you.  HUGS!

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