Post # 1
DH and I are in the process of moving – for less than 3 months, we have to live with his dad and stepmom to save up some money to rent our own place. However, my DH needs help packing up some of his stuff – mostly yard stuff and cleaning up… I’m good and don’t need any help. I don’t like anyone touching my stuff, putting it in boxes for me, etc. Am I crazy? Should I welcome the help? Lol. I’m going crazy – his stepmom just went in an area that had a bunch of my stuff in it and they had a huge trash can ready to get rid of stuff. No way! I made sure I made it known to my DH that I didn’t want her there so I’m not sure how he did it but he at least got her to move outside to the yard.
Am I being unreasonable?!? They can help him with his stuff but I do not want them touching my stuff. They can help put the boxes in the car or wherever, but only once I’ve packed it. Seriously, am I the only one who feels/would feel this way??? I don’t want to be rude but I’m just weird like this…
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
@alotlikelove: I hate when people touch my stuff. Help is always nice because moving SUCKS but…
Post # 4
@alotlikelove: I’m with you. Let ME sort stuff and box it. Once it’s in the box, if you want to move the box, fine. But don’t touch my stuff. No way.
Post # 5
When I pack, I pack it specifically based on how often I use the item, and I remember what box it’s in, so if I need it, I can get to it.
It would drive me batty if someone packed my stuff for me.
Post # 6
@alotlikelove: I don’t like people touching my stuff either. I don’t have all that much stuff, but the stuff I do have is special to me in some way and that even includes furniture. I have a few antiques, a dresser that I refinished myself, a side table that my Dad made in highschool, all my knick knacks mean something to me, other things that I saved up for and so they represent my hard work. I get really nervous when other people help me move, anxious actually. I’m so afraid something will be damaged and it will truly hurt my heart. Ugh. It took me 3 years to get up the nerve to buy a new handbag because I was emotionally attached to my old one. I know I have issues, but this is the way I am. Don’t touch my stuff. lol.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2014 - Beach
LOL i hate it if somone touches my stuff without telling me. It’s okay if i ask for help but if i go home and found that someone moved something around ahhh i could shoot them haha
Post # 8
I never understood people talking about having help, needing help or helping someone else pack. Help with MOVING the stuff I understand, but packing? It’s like having someone help me floss my own teeth, or get dressed.
Years ago I had a good pal that was sad about moving & wanted me to come over “help her pack” – I think she just wanted company/emotional support & someone to keep her wine glass full. So that’s what I did. I also used a sharpie to label many if her boxes as “old diaphragms” or “used diaphragms” or “dirty diaphragms” which she got a big kick out of when they were unloaded at her new place. So outside of comic relief I don’t understand the concept of help with packing. I’m totally with you!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse
I’m with you. I need to know EXACTLY what is in each box.
Also, it gives me the opportunity to purge stuff I no longer want
Post # 10
OMG I feel your pain….. I’m actually moving, started packing last week. We finally got the keys to our house so I’m moving in first, then the FI will move in right after. We’ve seen this house come up from nothing, an empty space, so we are so excited, I will probably be moved out before I even get to put in my 30 day notice March 1st.
For the record, I have been living completely alone for the past 5 years and this will be the 5th time I move and last!!!! So I’m not exactly new at this.
I am very particular as to how I pack, organize and label all my stuff because I’ve become a bit of a pro at this…. and for some reason, everyone decided they need to either coach me, come pack my shit up or if I don’t use their truck, we are no longer friends!!!
You tell them girl! You do what you want with your stuff, even if that means telling your FMIL to back off……go pack the glassware in the kitchen haha
Post # 11
The last time someone tried to help me pack they tried to throw out my books! MY BOOKS! No one will ever help me pack again, ever.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t mind if someone helped with packing except for the fact that moving is a good time to re-assess and purge, and no one else can make those decisions for you.
Post # 13
I like help packing specific things. The kitchen, for example, is a hard room to screw up. Glass with glass, plastic with plastic, metal with metal. Simples. My clothes are the same. If you want to help me fold tons of shirts, I am all for that, buddy. But nobody better touch my books. They get boxed up in very specific ways, and I don’t need someone messing with them.
@julies1949: You have a good point about purging. Moving is a great time for it. But I tend to purge when I unpack. If it’s been three weeks and I haven’t needed something, then it’s probably going to go bye-bye.
Post # 14
@Nostawyn: Why pay to move stuff that you are then going to get rid of? Even if you are doing your own moving, it makes the job easier to get rid of unneeded things before the move.
I’ll stick with purging before the move.
Post # 15
@julies1949: Haha. I guess if I’d ever had to pay movers, I’d feel differently about it. As it is, everyone in my family owns a truck (yay, Georgia!) and we always help each other move.
Post # 16
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I appreciate the help, but some things I need to pack myself. Last time we moved, a friend helped with a few boxes and he packed things so randomly and also packed out DSLR camera–not in it’s case… just the camera, in a box with a bunch of random things from our living room. It took forever to find it. I’ll take the help in moving the boxes and unpacking!