I don't really like my heirloom set so I don't wear it

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@acmckay589:  I personally love it. But maybe a stand in ring for work would be okay. 

Post # 4
2042 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@acmckay589:  Tell him how you feel and that you want one that better fits your career.  If he cant afford to get you the band you want go to a department store and get a fake til yall can afford it.  That way it still looks like your married!

Post # 5
1018 posts
Bumble bee

@acmckay589:  You could wear just the band…I’m sure your work won’t mind that.

Post # 6
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

Well if you really don’t like it you should get a new set. Otherwise I think you should wear the band, but wear the stone for special occasions.

Post # 8
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @acmckay589: first & foremost I see that this is your DEBUT post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I too think your ring is GORGEOUS

You are soooo fortunate to have a family heirloom

I take it the photo above is of Your Ring & His (the wider band)

You might want to get a WBand that is similar for yourself, and just wear that when you are working… and slip on your “Sparkly” one when you are home / going out etc.

I am a Bee with 3 Rings (ERing & 2 WBands) and I often wear my Plain Gold WBand alone if I am going to be doing something that I think would put my Diamonds / Ring / Setting at risk.

Makes perfect sense.

As for leaving yours in the safe… ya I am guessing that might upset your New Hubby.

I know my guy wouldn’t take well if I was doing that continually.

Hope this helps,


Post # 9
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I, personally, adore your grandma’s set! But I like vintage and wear an heirloom ring myself! Could you wear just the band on a daily basis so that you don’t have to worry about it poking through gloves? That way you get some of the sentimentality of wearing your grandma’s ring without the big pokey stones getting in the way. Then you could wear the diamond ring when you want to dress up a bit! But if you really don’t like the diamond ring then you could always get a different one. I would hate to lose the beauty of the original setting, but you could also consider re-setting it into a style you like better. But if you keep it, you can always feel special because it’s not like every other ring you see!

Edit: I think I misunderstood – is the band on the bottom your husband’s ring? I thought that was your grandma’s band. You could just get a plain band to wear day-to-day and wear your grandma’s set when you aren’t at work.

Post # 10
2299 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@acmckay589:  I think its GORGEOUS, but I understand that heirloom is not everyone’s style. What about getting a new band (with or without stones, whatever you like best) to wear on a regular basis, and pull this set out on special occasions?

Post # 11
8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@acmckay589:  If you dont want it, I’ll take it! Jk. But seriouslyl, that set is STUNNING. I love it.

But you could always get a regular band to wear at work. I dont think thats unusual.

Post # 12
133 posts
Blushing bee

I think it’s a beautiful ring, but I can see how you wouldn’t be able to wear it to work. My sister is an OT, and she has a plain band that she wears on most days. 

Post # 13
1801 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just popping in to say that my ring is a 7 mm stone with a halo, and I wear gloves for hours a day. I haven’t had any problems. I know many other women who work in nearby labs who also have large-ish solitaires and have no issues with gloves. I can understand feeling like a ring isn’t your style, but the glove thing is really a non-issue. 

Your rings are gorgeous, I would try to give them a shot in let them grow on you. 

Post # 14
10904 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Oh my gosh. Those rings are gorgeous!

If I were you, here is what I would do. I would reset those beautiful stones in the following manner:

Center diamond, flanked on either side by the largest diamond from each side of the enhancer, with one of the smallest diamonds on either side of those.

Then I would have the four medium-sized diamonds from the enhancer set in the middle of a half-eternity style wedding band, with the other two smallest diamonds from the enhancer on either end of them. (You and the jeweler may find that another combination works better, but that’s just a starting point as a suggestion for how to make these stunning diamonds look different in both an e-ring and wedding band.  Also, have them reset in the metal of your choice, whether that is platinum, white gold, yellow gold, or even rose gold! 🙂

Post # 15
2675 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

I think it’s a beautiful set but I understand your hesitation about wearing it to work. I wear gloves everyday for work too and I got a smaller, lower set, e-ring for this reason. I wanted to be able to wear my ring every day.

I know people who try to make it work and have decent sucess – a coworker of mine had a near 1 CT marquis cut and managed to wear gloves without ripping them most of the time (though I would honestly estimate she rips 1 pair of gloves a day on her ring).

I like the idea of a band or a stand in ring for work. A simple gold band is classic and you could even sometimes just wear that with the e-ring too. It gives you a lot of different options to work with in that regard. Or get yourself something completley different as a stand in, I have a CZ band from berricle as a stand for when I really worry about something happening to my e-ring in and I love it.

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