I don't think I can get over him cheating…Advice?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

He isn’t going to stop this. You have let him slide THREE times prior. You are underreacting. Don’t stay with him another day.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@whoa_its_ash:  +1

You are not overreacting, you are underreacting!  If anyone dating me also had a profile on a dating site and was meeting women from that site I would kick his ass to the curb.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

If you have caught him doing this multiple times then its really unlikely he is going to stop.

Personally, I would have been done after the first time. I have no tolerance for cheating – including just text messages and no actual physical contact. You are not overreacting. Leave him now before you have to deal with getting a divorce later.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@JazzyGemini:  Either accept that you are in a relationship with someone who has no intention to be faithful to you or leave.

Whatever you do, don’t continue to kid yourself about your fiancé. He’s shown you exactly who he is – believe him.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee

@JazzyGemini:  You’re underreacting. You know what you should do – get away from him and be thankful that he’s not going to be your husband. 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@JazzyGemini:  so if he has never met them, why the hell is he making these profiles and contacting these women?  Even if he hasn’t met any of them or physically cheated that is still super concerning behaviour and you shouldn’t be expected to put up with it or get over it.

ETA: don’t marry him hoping he will grow up or change.  If you don’t want to be married to the man he is right now, cut your losses and leave

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

He sounds like a complete tool who doesn’t respect you at all – you deserve way better.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

@JazzyGemini:  His age means nothing…there are 70 year olds who are still messing around on their wives. Find someone who will respect your relationship or you will just keep getting hurt.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@JazzyGemini:  He’s not going to change and maybe now he’s satisfied just talking dirty but eventually he will get physical. 

I am reading a book and the author compared infidelity to walking from New York to LA.  He said how do you get from New York to LA-one step at a time.  Once you start allowing little grievances to be okay before you know it they get bigger and bigger and they are in a full blown affair.

Its obvious at the very minimum that this guy does not care about your feelings more than his need for attention from other women.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

At 29, he’s pretty much grown up. This is his character. Leave him, it isn’t going to get better. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

@JazzyGemini:  My friend’s father was like your FI. Her mother stayed with him hoping he will get better. He stopped such a behavior when he reached 60. My friend believes that he just stopped because he wasn’t able to continue. 

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