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I don't think I picked the right dress

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    gidgett    March 13, 2010   Nashville

    I'm a short bride- I maxed out at 4'11 3/4" at the age of twelve- but I'm curvy. Originally I thought that because of my size, I would get a simple A-line dress, but I ended up with an ivory gown with beading and pickups.

    I don't think I picked the right dress :  wedding dress dress regret impression 2822 P 00004

    It was a discontinued sample dress, so I bought it that day. (It was under $700.) I started doubting my choice a couple months later, but everyone who's seen the dress and seen me in it said it was beautiful.

    But...

    Last month I went in for alterations, and I was NOT A FAN. I liked it all right while she was pinning and bustling me, but when I looked at the pictures that she had taken so I could show my bridesmaids, I hated it.

    It might be the lack of makeup, the squishy "time of the month" face, the hair that is still too dark (I had to dye it for a show), or my crappy camera, but I just hate these pictures.

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    I don't think I picked the right dress :  wedding dress dress regret impression 2822 100 2432

    I just don't know what to do. My wedding is next month, and I've already invested a lot of money in this dress. Granted, I have a reception dress that I could wear instead, but part of me really wants the princess dress. I'm just tired of waffling.

     
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    TheRen    May 2011  

    I dont know if my opinion matters but I think you look amazing!

     
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    lulucarmen    August 7, 2010   Saskatchewan

    I think it looks great on you. It's a really pretty dress, and you got a great deal!

    About the cap sleeves, do you like them? To me, they are not sitting right and maybe that's the problem!

    I'd go with this dress, it really looks great! I wouldn't have said anything if I didn't think so!

     
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    prettyflowers    September 2010  

    The lighting looks different (softer) in the first pic (I assume this was taken when you initially bought it?)... I think the harsher lighting in the second two pics is making the material look super shiny which is probably having an impact.  I think it looks much nicer in the first pic.  If you're having a pro photographer at the wedding I think you don't have to worry, your pics will come out right like the first pic.

     
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    littlemissmoo    July 18, 2010   London, UK

    I think you look great. I don't know if you had an extra crinoline or something in the first pic? It does look a bit more floofed out but that could be because they were selling you the dress so they were spreading it out for you so you could see what it looked like that way. 

     
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    Tulip61110    June 11, 2010   Philadelphia

    I agree with prettyflowers.  I would chalk it up to bad lighting and maybe the camera.  I think it looks great on you in the first pic, but not so great in the other pics because the fabric is looking ultra shiny.

     
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    Tonya2010    September 11, 2010  

    I think it looks really good on you. I will agree with the others, lighting is everything!

     
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    MissGoodie    July 24, 2010   Coquitlam

    I would never guess you were that short looking at those pictures....I think that dress looks amazing on you and actually gives you height!

     
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    PrncssDva    October 16, 2010   Memphis, TN

    I think that dress looks fabulous on you and I can't tell that you are that short.

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    I think it might be the bustle. When the skirt is all spread out like in the first pick, I would think you were short or anything. The bustle appears to tuck in some of the pick-ups in the second pictures, so while I think it still looks great, I can see how you might percieve it as cutting you off there. (I think mentally we expect the dress to keep flowing out, but then it juts sort of stops, so maybe that is tricking your eye?) Philosophizing aside, it is a beauitulf dress and you look great in it. Maybe when your hair is recolored and you have some makeup on, go back and take some pictures in better light to reassure yourself?

     
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    LacyLust    May 21, 2011   Ohio

    I agree that somethings not right with the cap sleeves. They arent' suppose to site like that. I think the dress fits your body great & makes you look amazing. I'd actually loose the Cap sleeve or wear them up off the shoulder how they usaully are.

     
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    gidgett    March 13, 2010   Nashville

    Whew, I feel a lot better!

    The difference in lighting had never really dawned on me, but hecka yeah! I was in two different parts of the shop for the two different visits. The dress isn't NEARLY that shiny in person, so between the natural light for my early afternoon wedding and my wonderful photographer, it should look lovely instead of...well...that. :P

    Now I can't wait to get my dress back and try it on with my better haircolor and real makeup!

     
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    gidgett    March 13, 2010   Nashville

    Oh, and with the cap sleeves: they're going to sit somewhere between where they're drooping now and my shoulder. I love love love the off-the-shoulder look (and so does P!), but at the moment they look like a sad afterthought...

     
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    Alistairs_girl    September 11, 2010   Canada

    Its really pretty - you look awesome! Nerves are getting to you... if you truly dont like it, then buy another and sell one or both - no sense hating it forever and having regrets.

     
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    futuremrscrawford    October 2, 2010   NYC

    YOU...LOOK...AWESOME!!!!!!!  FABULOUS!!!!!   You should feel awesome in that dress.  Get some amazing hair and makeup and you will be an ABSOLUTE princess!  No doubts, you look great.

     
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    Magenta    July 31, 2010   Springfield MA- Wedding in PR

    ARE YOU CRAZY?!?!?  SORRY... LET ME COMPOSE MYSELF... SHHHHHH... *BREATHING*  YOU LOOK AMAZING AND PRETTY... THAT DRESS IS A DREAM

     
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    Helstrong    April 9, 2011   Overland Park, KS

    YOU LOOK AMAZING!!!  Rock it girl!

     
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    gidgett    March 13, 2010   Nashville

    Thank you so much for talking me down off my crazy-bride ledge. :P

    I now have a job in alterations at the shop where I bought my dress, and they let me try it on with most of the changes done. I love love LOVE it!! The sweetheart neckline makes all the difference...now the dress looks like it was made exactly for me!

    Thanks for all the sweet comments. :)

     
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    futuredrbraun    May 15, 2010  

    I'm so glad that you are back to LOVING it because you totally should!!!! I'm also a very petite bride (5'0) and I would never tell from the pics that you are shorter. You are totally going to rock that dress and look amazing on your wedding!

     
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    spraguebride    August 8, 2009   Bothell, WA

    I think it looks great

    Just get the straps adjusts so they fit better or get rid of them

    But the structure of the dress is GREAT

     
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    shannon1126    August 21, 2010   Washington, Wedding in Vegas

    I agree with the above. I think you look great in that dress and it really shoes your curves. Looking at the pics I would have never pegged you for 4'11 and 3/4 Laughing

     
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    mrs-to-be    August 20, 2010   Netherlands

    Was browsing old posts and came across this one -- by now you are already married and I hope you had a most wonderful day!! Just wanted to say I do love the dress on you (tho agreed with the others on the lighting ánd the cap sleeve thingies) and I am just positive you were looking most beautiful and awesome on your wedding day! Do you have any final pics?? I'd love to see :-) Really like the dress!

     

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