I don't think I'll ever conceive :(

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

You should definitely go to the doctor if you’ve been trying for over a year. They can do some tests just to give you some more information on the situation. But don’t lose heart, it can sometimes take a really long time to conceive. I have a cousin and an aunt on different sides of my family who each took several years to fall pregnant.

Post # 3
142 posts
Blushing bee

Mrgrz07:   Join the 1+ board, that is one of the most supportive groups of ladies I have never met. It took me 2 years trying before I got pregnant, and I felt as defeated as you sound at the one-year stage. That is when I joined the 1+ TTC board and the ladies on there just understand, and are not patronizing – No one will tell you to ‘just relax’ anyway!! But yes, as pp said, you might.want to go to the doctor and start investigating why it might be taking you a little longer. I hope it works out for you.

Post # 4
106 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Sorry you’re struggling to get pregnant. The standard advice is that you should go to the doctor after 12 months (or 6 months if you’re over 35) so yes, you should go and see a doctor. Hope you get some answers and get your BFP soon!

Post # 8
904 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

Mrgrz07:  I’m so sorry OP :/ I know how you feel, 15th cycle here and still no luck. As PP said above, go over to the 1+ year TTC board. Those ladies are wonderful. And since it has been a year, I highly suggest you see a docror to get some answers and help ease your mind. And your partner should see a doctor too, and get a SA. A lot of women think it is their fault they are not getting pregnant, when in actuality, its the male partner who is having the issue (or both parties). Good Luck & see you over on the 1+ year board 🙂

Post # 9
4402 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Mrgrz07:  Yes, definitely go to a doctor. There are many things they can do these days to help you. 

I tried to conceive for over a year on my own with no luck; I’m now pregnant with baby #2 thanks to medical help. 

Post # 10
5812 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mrgrz07:  I’m so sorry you are going through this. Infertility sucks! The thing that comes so easily for others, is so hard for us. I know you are scared that you will never have a child, but there are still so many things you can do between now and never having kids. (I speak from experience–TTC 4 years, 1 MC, so many medicated with BD cycles I’ve lost count, 5 IUI and 2 IVF’s and now a month away from my first Egg Donor cycle.)

First, I would run, not walk, to get a work up, for both you and DH. The problem might not be yours. Also if you want to stay with a medicated cycle (with no other interventions) then you might want to try Femera. For some women it works better. If you OB isn’t familar with it, have him/her do some research. 

I know it is hard, but keep the faith (I’m in one of my hopeful moods right now). The goal is to have a child, just be open to how that is going to happen for you. 

Post # 11
6467 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Mrgrz07:  I agree with the other posts, go see a doctor asap, get tested both of you. You’ll probably be referred to a specialist that can help you make a plan and work with you to get you pregnant. Get your DH involved and hold hands as you walk together this difficult yet well worth journey. Best of luck. Feel free to join either the 6 month or 1 year + TCC threads or both. 

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