(Closed) i dont think its coming when i thought it was :(

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
79 posts
Worker bee

My advise to you would be “Don’t think about it.”  What men hate most is their GF being frustrated or upset that he hasn’t proposed when she was expecting it.  He is most likely waiting for you NOT to expect it.  Some men want that surprise factor.  You maybe (accidentally) pushing away even further.  Trust me, i have had many occasions that were a “this could be it” moment.  Then it wasn’t.  Even his mom and sister thought there was a moment there when he would propose.  But again, he didn’t.  I made sure that my BF didn’t think I was upset that he didn’t propose.  Even though I really was.  He left in April to go on military duty for 5 months and we made a night out before he left and went to this really nice restaurant.  I was praying that was it.  But nope!  He is coming home this weekend and you bet the thought crossed my mind.  Again, I can’t get my hopes up too high.  I don’t want to ruin the weekend for us.  He goes back on Monday. 

Post # 4
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102 posts
Blushing bee

Oh I’m sorry July…that sucks. One day my bf mentioned that with the extra military pay he’ll be getting in a few months that he’ll be able to finish paying off some CC bills and that then he would be able to save for other things (wink). It’s a little upsetting when you realize he hasn’t started saving yet.

You’re getting an awesome Birthday present though! Don’t let your disappointment that it’s not a ring ruin that. And really, wouldn’t you like to have a special engagement day that he’s put effort into rather than a Engagement ring turned b-day gift? That’s always seemed like a bit of a cop out to me. (Not that I would turn him down if he did that Laughing)

Post # 5
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1279 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m with MsEucalyptus – maybe he wants you to have your very own engagement day – and not do it on your birthday or anniversary?

I can totally relate about how upsetting it is when you think that your wait is going to be longer than you thought, but just try and stay strong – I am sure he has something special planned for you and hopefully very soon!

Post # 6
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4547 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Many guys won’t propose on an anniversary because they think it dampens the suprise. Perhaps that’s the case. I know my FI proposed on our anniversary but it was our 14 month anniversary, which is kinda random. I know he didn’t want to do it on a holiday or on any of our big year anniversaries.

Post # 7
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@July: When is your birthday/anniversary? My birthday and anniversary are only 5 days apart and also in July. And we’re also moving out of state before the end of the year (probably October). 

I’m hoping he’ll propose for my birthday or our anniversary (if not before), but I don’t think it’s going to be the case. He admitted to me the other day he has a plan. The ring has been ordered (I know, we designed it together and I dealt mostly with the jeweler, long story) so I think he may wait for it to be ready – which is still another month 🙁 

You know he loves you and he wants to be with you, and as much as yes, the proposal/engagement is important – being with him is so much more important. He loves you and he will propose. In the mean time enjoy the awesome new camera!! I’m jealous about that as I am also very into photography and just finished two photo classes. I doubt I’ll be getting as nice or exciting present for my birthday.

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