(Closed) I don't think that I could make my husband jealous if I REALLY tried

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

My FI is just the opposite he is comfortable with male friends that I have introduced him too but he is not comfortable with men trying to get my attention or trying to flirt with me. He has witness it first hand and know it is not anything I am doing. The way he tries to prevent it is by holding my hand or having his hand somewhere on me. I personally am not aware of these men because I love my FI and am so not interested.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My fiance is the same way. He loves me with all of his heart and we have an amazing relationship, but if I were to be hit on or have someone ask for my number which has happened, he has nothing wrong with it, no jealousy. I think some are the jealous type and some aren’t and I don’t think that has anything to do with your relationship or the way he feels about you.  My FI explains it to me that he is just very secure in what we have and has no reason to worry because he knows I’m his forever. For your SO, this is probably a function of total trust and comfort in knowing that he has no REASON to be jealous, which is a great thing! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My Fiance is never jealous. It is a blessing most of the time because I have a lot of male friends from the Navy and we all go out a lot. But, sometimes it is kind of annoying. One time a guy came up and kissed me on the dance floor, and FI didn’t react at all. I had to go over and say, “did you see that guy just come up and kiss me?” he was like “Oh man that sucks, but what do you want me to do about it?”. I had to coach him on what to do (go over, say stay away from my girl, etc). 

Yeah, I wish he cared a little bit more sometimes, but for the most part I like that I have freedom to do whatever I want without fear of jealousy. 

On the other hand, I used to be very jealous of his exes (who he is still friends with) but now I am rarely jealous. So maybe it is just how we are?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My husband would be the same way – although he’d be overly shocked if I ever did something like nude pics 🙂

3 weeks ago some guy was hitting on me at a bar and asked to buy me a drink with DH standing right there. I of course declined and explained I was married, DH asked why I did that because I was going to get a free drink out of it. o_o

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My SO doesn’t seem to have the jealousy thing going on. He completely trusts me, and recognizing that jealousy would be something that he needs to work out within himself, and not something that another person has control over. However, I want to do a budoir shott before our marriage, and he told me that it was cool as long as I had a female photographer. That had nothing to do with jealousy — but more of a respect/weirdness issue. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

My honey is never jealous.  But I embrace it because I was in a marriage before and my ex would be consumed with imaginary bouts of jealousy and possessiveness.  He would blow up my phone constantly when I wasn’t with him.

This relationship is such a blessing and so much better.  He never seems to worry about what I am doing and doesn’t get creepy if I’m not around.  He is just so secure.  But I think that comes from the fact that not only does he trust me but he trusts himself.  My ex was paranoid because he knew what HE was doing.*shaking my head*  Glad I got out of that mess.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Roe:  Sounds like he learned that your friends were not to be jealous of. Honestly, if he was jealous of you married with kids photographer friend then that would speak more volumes on his insecurities then anything else.

 

 Jealousy can be a very normal and healthy part of a relationship, feeling a twinge or it is completely normal now and then. Going into a jealous rage or picking a fight out of jealousy over something you have no control over (a guy hitting on you) is when it’s not healthy. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have never seen my husband get jealous.  In fact when I dance with other men, or tell him how I got hit on at the store, he feels impressed or “winning” for lack of a better term (seriously I couldn’t think of a better term), as others find his wife attractive, but I get to go home with him!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that’s an excellent sign that you have a healthy and trusting relationship, actually. Good for you!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Hahaha I feel the same way, except my husband has never been the jealous type, even when we were very young. I used to play around and tell him about this one friend I had in college who was always asking me over for dinner or tea (even when he knew I was in a committed relationship, and I always said no unless it was a group) and I would tell DH and he would be like go, do it! It’ll be funny!

I couldn’t make the man jealous if I tried! lol

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