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They aren't necessary or required. It is totally up to the couple if they want to do them or not. I struggled for a long time wheter or not I would do them, and I ended up getting some to send out. We are going to send an engagement picture with each one, so our guests can see what we look like now, and also for the ones that have never seen one of us. I think it is a nice gesture, but you sure don't have to send them out if you don't want too.
Um, I don't get them either. I didn't order them and I told our families about our plans in advance. Like a year ago in advance. We changed our date bc of hubs' stupid brother and his wife, but that's a different (annoying) story. Nope, I think save the dates are a waste of time and money.
STD are becoming more and more common, I've gotten couple comments on how we didnt do them. Well, if ultimate goal of STD is to give advance notice to your guests, and you can do it in some other way, who needs them then! It's a nice way to get guests excited about location (if its DW), or have a cute pic of you and your FI. But just like you, we let our famil/friends now by email or phone or in person. The way I looked at it was one less DIY project!
I depends who you're inviting to your wedding I think. My family and friends are very busy people and they live all over the place. If we just sent out a wedding invitation 2-3 months before the wedding, a lot of people would already have made plans for our wedding weekend and wouldn't have been able to come. For us, sending out save-the-dates 8 months before the wedding was really important. I'm sure that most of our guests appreciated the advance heads up.
If you're wedding is in your hometown where all of your wedding guests also live, then maybe you don't need save-the-dates.
ACK!! I didn't mean to sound snarky. I just meant that for us it was a waste. Especially when we could use that money for something that is important to us.
1) They're fun.
2) They're a nice way to send out a picture of you and your FI to people who may not know one (or both) of you.
3) For people like me who are getting married far away from everyone invited and on a holiday weekend, they're really useful for making sure that EVERYONE on the guest list knows well in advance and can begin planning.
4) They don't have to be expensive or time consuming.
5) If you don't want them or find them useful, don't get them.
No biggie. :)
I understand for weddings that are OOT or far in date but to me they are useless. And no offense but its along the lines of types of favors, outside your family no one really wants a picture of you everyday on their fridge. I know I don't and it probably get tossed anyway. Rude, maybe to some, honest, most definetly and the case for many who receive them.
I did them because i think they are cute!
Also because our reception is 2 days after thanksgiving!
I agree it makes more sense to have them if your doing a Destination wedding or have lots of Out of Town guests. For us we are having a 300 + person wedding and most live around here so we aren't even bothering. It would be a lot of time and money to do STD's; so we're skipping them. Word of mouth works fine in our neck of the woods...
Miss Green, I think you said honestly and perfectly.
Miss Lily, I don't think you were being snarky.
We had a DW so we just sent our invites out super early so our guests had plenty of time and all of the information up front to make their arrangements. No STD's necessary.
We didn't do them; our close family and friends knew when it was, and the other people getting invites, we knew they probably wouldn't come; but we sent the invites like, 6 months prior to the wedding so they could make a decision and save up for it.
I appreciate them, because I have to submit my vacation for the entire year in March. I am a nurse and this is our union policy - so if you just send me your wedding invitation for July in April, I won't be able to get time off to go (this has happened to me twice), so even though I might not have to travel, and your wedding is on a saturday, those of us who work some weekends need more than 8-12 weeks notice to get time off.
We did STD's only because we are getting married on a holiday weekend (Labor Day weekend) and we feared that if we didn't send them out, people would forget about our wedding and make other plans, given it is a popular weekend for vacation/travel plans. Otherwise, I wouldn't have bothered.
We did them. Almost all our guests live a 4 hour flight, or 5 hour drive away, and it's also on a Friday. We sent them out in our Christmas cards so those people who have to submit their annual vacation plan in January (like me) or April like some other people would know well in advance.
I just did a business card size piece of paper with a stamp on them, not a photo magnet or anything. I know most people wouldn't put it on their fridge, but just wanted to be put on people's calendar's.
I think email std's are great... you can follow up if something changes (date, whatever), it's free, and minimal work on your part! You can even use it to request mailing addresses (a lot of my friends move around a lot).
I did save the dates because the dutch (and other Europeans) usually take all 20 of their vacation days off at once and plan their vacations well in advance, so if I didn't let them know roughly a year ahead of my wedding date...FI and I would almost be alone. LOL
Most of our guests are OOT so it made sense. Also, even some of the people closest to me, before we sent them after I'd told them the wedding date already, were asking "when is your wedding again?" I realized you can't expect everyone to remember when your wedding date is because while it's at the forefront of your mind and family planning it, close friends that aren't in the wedding could easily forget.
We didn't put our picture on them because I like a PP mentioned have no interest in someone having a pic of me on their fridge. We just found a cute design we liked and went with that. It's a matter of preference and budget. Our budget allowed for them so we figured WTF why not?
Yep, we sent them! We have a lot of family out of state and wanted to give them some time to plan. Plus it only cost $20! So, totally worth it for us.
we are sending them out because we are thinking of doing a DW. it would be a good way to tell people hey you need to save for our wedding if you wanna go with us idk how i am going to word that but i was thinking i somehow i could on the STD;s
We had Save the Dates, but we sent them over email to only a handful of people. I did it because everyone on my side has to fly in and I wanted to give them plenty of time to find tickets. We were a little wishy-washy when trying to decide the date and so wanted to make sure everyone knew the actual date.
We did them because we had a destination wedding and majority of our guests would be making really big travel plans to get there. We spent very little money because I did them on Vista print and used their promos they have. My friend did an email Save the Date which is a good idea because you can send the link to hotels or your wedding website.
I find them increadibly important if you are having a destination wedding. It's one thing to tell your friends that you are planning on getting married on xx/xx/xx in cityname, countryname, but they really don't know that they are invited until they receive a Save the Date or a wedding invitation.
Many trips that require out of country travel must be booked months in advance in order to save money and I know that I personally would not be spending that kind of money unless I received a Save the Date or invitation, which meant that I was for sure invited and also that there is no possibility the date has been changed. In my opinion, once one of those has gone out, the wedding is definitely happening on that date and in that city.
I think STDs are good for guests who plan in advance or are out of town. Its kinda nice getting them in case you're planning a vacation or for an event & if you know about when/where the wedding is, you can be sure to not book something else that same day.
Also, you get people asking "when's your wedding, again?" & if you have a 200 person guest list... wow that question would get old!
We made STDs & then realized postage would cost us a lot & we didn't have the money for it... so we just did Facebook invites so people knew about them & then we mailed out real invitations with the STDs in there earlier this month. We had fun with our STDs, took fun pics, got to design them & printing only cost 10 cents each (there was an awesome sale). So it was maybe $20 & it was so worth it :). However, not everyone has to do a STD, just if you want to.
it was just something fun for me that i could do without anyone telling me i was doing it too early(i'm obsessed with getting things done way too early), and noone could tell me that 9 month was too early to send std's cause they had no idea!
We did them because we were inviting a lot of people that we weren't in close contact with and they may or may not have heard about the wedding. Also, most people lived far away from where we had our wedding so we wanted to let them know in advance so they could book their flights and hotels for less money. If it were under different circumstances, I wouldn't have seen a need to send them out.
I did them in an unofficial sense (emails or a letter) just because guests from my side would require to arrange flights etc, so I wanted to give them plenty of time to be able to source good rates for flights. If we didn't have that 'issue' I would not have bothered!
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Anyone else completely BAFFLED at the concept of Save-the-Dates? To me it just seems like a waste of time.
I suppose I understand that if you're having a DW or people from out of town-they need to know in advance to make travel arrangements. Sure, I guess I'll buy that. But seriously?!
I'm having a destination wedding and anyone close to me that we're planning on inviting already knows and has known for at least a year. I didn't need to mail anything, I just told people in person. No need for cutesy magnets with a picture of us. Nothing that says here you go...keep an eye out for your invitation.
Maybe I'm the only one who hasn't jumped on this bandwagon...but I don't see a need for it! What ever happened before the concept of the "save-the-date" was invented!?!