Post # 1
Anyone else completely BAFFLED at the concept of Save-the-Dates? To me it just seems like a waste of time.
I suppose I understand that if you’re having a DW or people from out of town-they need to know in advance to make travel arrangements. Sure, I guess I’ll buy that. But seriously?!
I’m having a destination wedding and anyone close to me that we’re planning on inviting already knows and has known for at least a year. I didn’t need to mail anything, I just told people in person. No need for cutesy magnets with a picture of us. Nothing that says here you go…keep an eye out for your invitation.
Maybe I’m the only one who hasn’t jumped on this bandwagon…but I don’t see a need for it! What ever happened before the concept of the “save-the-date” was invented!?!
Post # 3
They aren’t necessary or required. It is totally up to the couple if they want to do them or not. I struggled for a long time wheter or not I would do them, and I ended up getting some to send out. We are going to send an engagement picture with each one, so our guests can see what we look like now, and also for the ones that have never seen one of us. I think it is a nice gesture, but you sure don’t have to send them out if you don’t want too.
Post # 4
Um, I don’t get them either. I didn’t order them and I told our families about our plans in advance. Like a year ago in advance. We changed our date bc of hubs’ stupid brother and his wife, but that’s a different (annoying) story. Nope, I think save the dates are a waste of time and money.
Post # 5
STD are becoming more and more common, I’ve gotten couple comments on how we didnt do them. Well, if ultimate goal of STD is to give advance notice to your guests, and you can do it in some other way, who needs them then! It’s a nice way to get guests excited about location (if its DW), or have a cute pic of you and your FI. But just like you, we let our famil/friends now by email or phone or in person. The way I looked at it was one less DIY project!
Post # 6
I depends who you’re inviting to your wedding I think. My family and friends are very busy people and they live all over the place. If we just sent out a wedding invitation 2-3 months before the wedding, a lot of people would already have made plans for our wedding weekend and wouldn’t have been able to come. For us, sending out save-the-dates 8 months before the wedding was really important. I’m sure that most of our guests appreciated the advance heads up.
If you’re wedding is in your hometown where all of your wedding guests also live, then maybe you don’t need save-the-dates.
Post # 7
ACK!! I didn’t mean to sound snarky. I just meant that for us it was a waste. Especially when we could use that money for something that is important to us.
Post # 8
1) They’re fun.
2) They’re a nice way to send out a picture of you and your FI to people who may not know one (or both) of you.
3) For people like me who are getting married far away from everyone invited and on a holiday weekend, they’re really useful for making sure that EVERYONE on the guest list knows well in advance and can begin planning.
4) They don’t have to be expensive or time consuming.
5) If you don’t want them or find them useful, don’t get them.
No biggie. 🙂
Post # 9
I understand for weddings that are OOT or far in date but to me they are useless. And no offense but its along the lines of types of favors, outside your family no one really wants a picture of you everyday on their fridge. I know I don’t and it probably get tossed anyway. Rude, maybe to some, honest, most definetly and the case for many who receive them.
Post # 10
I did them because i think they are cute!
Also because our reception is 2 days after thanksgiving!
Post # 11
I agree it makes more sense to have them if your doing a Destination wedding or have lots of Out of Town guests. For us we are having a 300 + person wedding and most live around here so we aren’t even bothering. It would be a lot of time and money to do STD’s; so we’re skipping them. Word of mouth works fine in our neck of the woods…
Post # 12
Miss Green, I think you said honestly and perfectly.
Miss Lily, I don’t think you were being snarky.
Post # 13
We had a DW so we just sent our invites out super early so our guests had plenty of time and all of the information up front to make their arrangements. No STD’s necessary.
Post # 14
We didn’t do them; our close family and friends knew when it was, and the other people getting invites, we knew they probably wouldn’t come; but we sent the invites like, 6 months prior to the wedding so they could make a decision and save up for it.
Post # 15
I appreciate them, because I have to submit my vacation for the entire year in March. I am a nurse and this is our union policy – so if you just send me your wedding invitation for July in April, I won’t be able to get time off to go (this has happened to me twice), so even though I might not have to travel, and your wedding is on a saturday, those of us who work some weekends need more than 8-12 weeks notice to get time off.
Post # 16
We did STD’s only because we are getting married on a holiday weekend (Labor Day weekend) and we feared that if we didn’t send them out, people would forget about our wedding and make other plans, given it is a popular weekend for vacation/travel plans. Otherwise, I wouldn’t have bothered.