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I think it's up to you, but instrumental music is more traditionally used. It really is up to you & what you like though . . . If you like contemporary music but want it instrumental and more wedding-appropriate, try looking up the Vitamin String Quartet. They do instrumental string covers of popular music.
I personally wanted bluegrass-y music, and I was recommended the "Pickin' On" series, they do instrumental bluegrass covers of popular music :-)
Good luck!
How helpful! Now I have somewhere to start - thank you! Would I pick the same "type" of music for my walk down the aisle? So if I did Vitamin String Quartet for the BMs, I would use it for me too?
Since you're not having a church wedding, I think any kind of song (instrumental, something with lyrics, something usually with lyrics but just the instrumental, etc.) is fine as long as it's appropriate to your wedding.
I think it's nice to have music on while the guests are getting settled and waiting for the ceremony to start, aka prelude music. We're having Ave Maria, Over the Rainbow, and Unforgettable.
Don't worry, we're six weeks out and just picked our music this morning!
I chose songs that I thought would sound good acoustically on a guitar because we are having a friend play for our ceremony
A good musician will be able to play a song that's usually done with vocals with no problem. Ask them what version they already have, and if you need to get them another version.
Some church songs are vocal songs. But they can be done without a singer.
As far as before ceremony music. That's usually called the 'prelude', although I think I've seen it referred to as gathering music once or twice. You can make suggestions to the musician(s) for one or two songs and let them fill in the rest, or if you want to pick out all the music (but know that they might have to fill in with other songs if the start of the ceremony runs late). Or you could look at their song list and select from there. Or a combination of the three.
Have you decided on musicians yet?
Here is a good worksheet.
http://www.chicaandjo.com/2008/07/30/wedding-dj-worksheet-and-checklist/
We just decided on our recessional song: we're going to play "You're My Best Friend" by Queen. Not sure of the processional song, though.
You don't have to have a string quartet version of music—though I love VSQ—but if you want to choose a contemporary song, it's usually suggested that you use an instrumental version without the words. Not a hard and fast rule; it's just said that the vocals can be distracting.
Since you are not marrying in a church, you can do anything you want. Some people think that lyrics are not appropriate for a ceremony, even if they are not offensive in the least, and others don't see what the problem is with having lyrics. That is totally personal preference.
Typically there is 30 mins of music played as guests are arriving and being seated. The parents and bridesmaids enter during this time and you can have a separate song for them if you wish. Then there is the processional where the bride makes her entrance (at the time listed on the invite). After the ceremony is the recessional when the couple exits. There is usually upbeat music played afterward while guests are leaving.
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I didn't even think about picking out the processional and recessionl music until tonight and my wedding is five weeks away. So my really dumb question is: do you pick out instrumental versions of songs, or do you pick songs with lyrics? I definately know that the traditional church songs are classical without lyrics (right?), but we are not getting married in a church. Do I need to pick a song while everyone is waiting also? Any suggestions would be great!