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I totally agree with jasmin! This is your wedding and you shouldn't have to do anything you're not comfortable with. In my opinion, traditions are only useful if they mean something to the couple (or the family in some cases). We are only participating in those traditions we find meaningful and adding some new ones of our own. I'd say just skip the first dance and garter toss and don't say anything about it. Most likely no one will notice. About the glass-klinking thing, I'd suggest putting a note in the program or on the tables (which ever makes more sense) that says, "Due to facility restrictions, please refrain from clinking glasses." Then maybe say something cute about how you have the rest of your lives to kiss or you don't want to wear out your lips. But first and foremost I'd blame it on either the facility or the place you rented your glasses from. I've actually heard of places that have that restriction so it's a plausable excuse. Good luck!

As far as things we're not doing... my dad and I have a strained relationship so he's not walking me down the isle. Even if he were, I've always had problems with being "given away". So we have a note in the program explaning that since women are not a comadity to be bought and traded, the question "who gives this bride" will not be asked. Instead we're asking for a statement of support from a represtative from each family. My brother who walked with me down the isle will say that on behalf of my friends and family he offers their love and support. My FI's mom will then say the same thing. I find it to be a good compromise.

same here. no garter toss. no bouquet toss. we are doing a first dance, but no bridal party dance. we're not doing a traditional father/daughter - mother/son dance. we wanted to recognize our parents though so each set of parents will dance together while fi and i are dancing as well - couples dance. then towards the end of song we'll invite others couples to come up and dance.

Do whatever you like, and leave out the rest. We didn't do the garter at my wedding either, but we did do the bouquet toss. Just tell your DJ or emcee not to announce a garter toss. Ditto with the first dance, just have the music start up and encourage everyone to get out on the dance floor!

As for the glass-clinking, I'd caution you not to put a note that says not to clink glasses b/c of the rental restrictions... people will just assume they can clink something else instead! Plates, silverware, etc. If it's the "not kissing in the spotlight" thing that's getting you, just spread the word via a few friends, and ignore any glass clinking. People will look at you for a while, then get bored and stop.

if you are having a DJ, you could turn the tables on guests if they start doing the "kissy glass" thing so if/when they do it, the DJ announces that the B&G get to point to a couple that have to kiss infront of everyone instead.

that ususally stops people from doing it pretty fast.