- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I am getting married ~3 days after taking a major licensing exam for my field of work. Needless to say, I will be focused on exam prep in the weeks leading up to the wedding, and I will spend the intervening time until the wedding recovering from the exam and resting up for the wedding. I am fairly low-energy and thus far have done OK communicating to my friends that their kind offers to throw bridal showers won’t be compatible with my study schedule before the wedding.
While spending the holidays with my FI’s out-of-state family, my FILs’ family friend — whom I had just met — enthusiastically said that she will throw a party for me on one of the days between the exam and the wedding. I so appreciate her generosity, but I just.can’t.imagine. mustering the energy post-exam for a pre-wedding party. I really want the option to spend that evening resting or completing wedding projects. I didn’t know what to say when she said she wanted to do this.
How do I prevent this party from happening? The only party of which I want to be the center of attention so soon after my exam is the wedding itself! Even the rehearsal dinner may exhaust me! I would say something to my FILs so that they can run interference on this party, but I am not close to them at all (we speak amicably but only annually at the holidays). On the other hand, I don’t want this poor woman to charge ahead with planning, only to have someone notify her at the last minute that I’m not interested.
How do I graciously refuse?! I feel like such a party pooper, but I simply can’t predict my energy or excitement for yet another event around that time.