- 2 years ago
I’ve always wanted a smaller wedding, fiance wants a big wedding and we’re planning for one as he wouldn’t let that go lol. From the beginning I’ve said I don’t want a bridal party for several reasons.
I don’t want to put my friends on a stress about spending money on dresses.
I don’t have an extremely super best friend I can pick as MOH and my friends aren’t exactly the girly type, I have a really good friend but he’s a guy lol
I don’t want to deal with the whole bridal party dramas that I’ve seen/heard of so much.
note, I love the way it looks and would never discourage anyone from having a bridal party, it’s just not for me. The fiance said that it’s up to me, he’s not extremely close to some of his friends either so he didn’t feel the need to have groomsmen although he couldn’t care less.
I’ve had many arguments with my family over this because they insist it’s the norm to have bridesmaids, I think they’ve settled down on the idea that I am determined on not having one.
Talking to the FMIL, she said that it’d be nice to have my fiance’s sister standing next to me and his brother standing next to me; meaning as MOH and best man. I explained I don’t want anyone else but the person marrying us, my fiance and me on the platform and she insists that we will need someone especially to help me out with the train of the dress and to hold stuff, help out etc.
Thing is, it’d only be my fiance’s siblings, no one from my side, I’m an only child so I can’t pick siblings to go with me as well and it would kill my no bridal party plan.
I told her that I feel having his siblings would be unfair since no one will be represented from my side, am I wrong? I get along with fiance’s siblings but I’m definitely not close to them.
Should I agree to having them even though it means I won’t have anyone from my side? Should I respectfully tell her that I’d still like to stick to my no bridal party plan?
Anyone else been in this situation before? I’ll appreciate any advice and thoughts!