(Closed) I don’t want her in our wedding anymore, period!…(long)

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

pregnancy comes with mood swings and maybe hers are just extreme. some people are very grumpy when pregnant. you could suggest to her that since she is pregnant she may want to step down otherwise u will just have to ignore “little” things like her rolling her eyes or making funny comments and try to have a good time anyway.

Post # 4
5388 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Do you think that her hormones are having her seem like a “different person” to you? Maybe you can have her step down as a Bridesmaid or Best Man and do something else in the wedding. That way she won’t have to look for another dress, and you can sell her dress to your brother’s Girlfriend.

Post # 5
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sorry you are going through this, and this is not an excuse, but if she is pregant, she is probably really hormonal and uncomfortable. I would make an effor to take her out to lunch and talk to her. Just you and her. Find out if she really wants to be in your wedding. Let her know that you don’t appreciate how she is behaving toward you and others’. Give her an opportunity to apologize and bow out of the wedding if she wants to and don’t hold it against, if she chooses to bow out. If she doesn’t apologize, maybe now is a good time to end the friendship. Only you and her can make that call. But yes, having kids does change people. She is quite probably jealous of you, so cut her some slack, if you can.

Post # 6
2058 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You won’t want to look back in years and be sad she wasn’t there. I suggest talking it out with her. There maybe something happening on her end and it hasn’t been communicated. Ask her questions and communicate wit her.  Granted you may receive feedback that you aren’t emotionally prepared to get, you will be making an effort. If you feel the open line of communication didn’t work then I would revisit the thought letting her know that it might be best for your friendship for her to not be a bridesmaid.

I am sorry you’re going through this Undecided

Post # 7
581 posts
Busy bee

Can you give her a way out by asking something like “I know you have so much going on right now with your daughter and this pregnancy.  If you would like to step back from being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would understand.  I don’t want this to be a burden for you.”   That would be nice.

Or the not-so-nice version and definite removal is “I feel that being a Bridesmaid or Best Man in my wedding is not working for you with so much going on right now with your daughter and this pregnancy.  I’m going to relieve you from your position as Bridesmaid or Best Man because I want you to enjoy attending my wedding.”

Situations like this are difficult.  I’m sorry you have to deal with this.


Post # 8
1046 posts
Bumble bee

agreed.. I am a happy and go lucky person, but when I was pregnant I was an UBER BITCH! Like no kidding, I can’t believe I’m not single right now…

Also, if she is on her second child so quickly she may feel very overwhelmed. I can understand that she may be getting on your nerves, but is this worth losing a friend over? I’m sure everyones nerves are thin, especially with your wedding be so close, but pregnancy can make a sweet girl obnoxious; take if from me!

Big hugs, and I hope it all works out!

Post # 10
2588 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Hormones can REALLY mess a person up, so I wouldn’t be so quick to dismiss her. Just have a chat with her about her (piss-poor) attitude…GL.

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