- 6 years ago
- Wedding: November 2012
Alright bees, I’m sure I will offend some people on here but try to understand both sides, as I will also.
My FI and I looked at one venue so far, looking at our second in a few days. We are looking into all-in-one venues, keeping that in mind.. I don’t want kids present for really any part of the day.
I do want a ring bearer and flower girl, but I’ve been to weddings where the children cried all the way down the isle or ran in the opposite direction. Then, once they are in their seats they make plenty of noise, distracting most people from enjoying a very nice wedding. Also forcing their parents to take them outside, so even they have to step away from enjoying themselves. Then for pictures they get antsy, start crying, become shy, tired, look away.. you get it.
Then during receptions I’ve seen kids running in between the bars, pulling on table cloths, screaming, crying, etc. (please keep in mind these are kids of ALL ages)
I told my FI I REALLY didn’t want kids at either the ceremony or reception, and he said there is nothing I can do to prevent people from bringing their kids to the ceremony. The reception I can say “adults only” but not for a ceremony. He also said that he would definitely want his niece and nephews (ages 4-10) to be there for the entire day, but I said I don’t. He was VERY offended. I DO have a niece and nephew myself (ages 9 & 11), but I feel like if they are invited then other guests will wonder why their kids weren’t. I don’t want my niece and nephew there either. I think if I want no kids, then that has to go for everyone.
I was at a cousin’s wedding last year, and some kids were there and others were not. I later found out that only some were invited and I think it offended the people whose kids were not there. They also looked like they didn’t enjoy themselves, sitting down all night, not interacting with others, when they normally would.
Ughhh this could go on for hours, so I’ll stop here. I just don’t know where to draw the line. Can you only have a flower girl and ring bearer at the ceremony and not at the reception? I do not want to provide baby sitting services because I was at a wedding that DID provide baby sitting services and the kids still showed up for the last 2 hours of the reception. I just want to avoid these situations all together.