I Don't Want My Custom-made Wedding Gown, & I'm Scared to Tell my Tailor.

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
45001 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mdcmod:  You haven’t seen the new dress though. It might be exactly what you asked for.  I suggest you at least go in to see it. Your only complaints seem to be about the color.

If it’s not to your satisfaction, you could tell him there and then, that you need to change plans to ensure you have a dress that you like for your wedding. As he has not provided it despite your direction, you are cancelling your order and want your deposit back.

Post # 3
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Hanover Grande Ballroom

i think you should go and try on the dress he remade. if you are still not satisfied, sternly tell him what you want changed. 

It seems like he is taking the necessary steps to try to make you happy, so if you do decide to go with someone else for your dress, I dont think that I personally would ask for the deposit back.

Post # 4
1411 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well fuck, that’s tough. I had my dress custom made, and while I don’t feel like it was perfect,  I think that was my fault,  and I still liked it.

I think you owe it to your tailor to try on the second dress. But what’s your plan B? I feel like it would be easier to say no if you can say “this is nice but I have x option that I like better and 3 weeks is not long enough for me to trust you to change that.”

Post # 6
305 posts
Helper bee

I would love to see pictures!  The thing is, you are paying him to make YOUR dress.  If what he has made doesn’t match your vision, let him know.  You don’t have to be mean or rude to get your point across.  Trust me.  I am the kind of person that will get a haircut that I hate, and cry when I get home, but not say anything in the salon.  Your dress is a huge expense, and part of what you are paying for is the process of designing the dress.<br /><br />Good luck!  I hope you love it!

Post # 8
1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Can you bring an assertive person with you? Next time you go in, take the dress you like the most, and say you absolutely want X changed about the dress and you insist it done by Y date.  If you’re not comfortable/confident demanding that, that person can help you. 

Really, do you have any alternative with your wedding only 3 weeks away? 


Post # 10
848 posts
Busy bee

mdcmod:  What did you think of the new dress?

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