Post # 1
I know that sounds a little harsh… but we have a total of 14 bm’s & gm, obviously not including their spouses. There are a total of 8 young children amongst them. I was hoping to do a wedding party table with us in the center, and I don’t want for the kids sitting at the wedding party table with us. Not all of the children are well behaved, and I don’t want to be worried about their activity & behavior. I’ve already spoken to 1 Bridesmaid or Best Man who said she could get someone to watch her child for the wedding. I really want to have a super fun wedding, and I feel like those that are in the wedding party won’t be able to drink, dance and “let their hair down” if they are worried about their cranky children and getting them to bed. I’m fine if our guests bring their children, it’s just that I would rather our wedding party didn’t. How do I go about requesting that they come to our wedding without the kiddos??
Post # 3
Honestly, you don’t. It’s one or the other, and asking your bridal party to leave kids at home when everyone else can bring theirs is a little much. I think you either have a kids-friendly wedding or you don’t; you can’t pick and choose who gets to bring theirs. But that’s just me!! … and this is the reason we’re having an adults only wedding. 🙂
Maybe you could say something about how you would like it to just be the bridal party at the tables but the no kids thing could be a touchy subject.
Post # 4
Maybe you could have a separate table for the kids of the bridal party and hire a babysitter to look after them to make sure they’re well behaved. I’ve heard of that being done before.
Post # 5
I dont know what kind of wedding you are having or if you are ok with the kids being at the reception but would it be possible for you to hire a few trusted teenagers to help with the kids either near by where your BMs would be able to ck up on the kids and have them at the reception or some where off site for the duration of the ceremony and reception.
Also if you are doing a destination wedding ck with the destination to see if they have a babysitting service that would provide care in the BMs rooms or near where the cermony is.
Also if you are looking to find qualified caregivers for your BMs in your area you can ck out the website care.com. it is a website that provides qualifed caregivers for families and others who are looking for care givers. I use that website to find jobs and have sat for families during weddings and receptions.
Hope that helped.
Kelly D <>< 🙂
Post # 6
Personally, being your having a kid friendly wedding, I think that would be a bit much to ask, but I don’t see anything wrong with telling them in advance that you don’t want their children at the head table. I was once in a wedding where they had the flower girls sit at the head table, nothing kills a buzz like having to help some random kid you don’t know eat while they sit between you and the other adults at the head table. I like the previous suggestion of hiring a few babysitters to watch their kids, and possibly even bring them back to the hotel after the meal/early in the night “all the kids dancing” dances, so your wedding party is able to let their hair down without feeling guilty. Best wishes!
Post # 7
That sounds a little harsh to me, but I have a daughter and would be pretty offended if I was asked not to bring her. Won’t their spouses be sitting at different tables? Why wouldn’t their kids sit wih them? If the spouses are going to sit at the head table to, they may arrange for something on their own . I just don’t think it would be very fair to have a kid friendly reception, but tell the people that are the most important, important to be in the wedding party anyway, not to bring their children.
Post # 8
I didn’t have kids at my wedding, and only 1 person in the bridal party had kids and totally understood. However if kids were allowed at the wedding I would never have told them they couldn’t. But still understand the whole not wanting them chasing around the kids instead of having fun but you gotta go all no kids or kids ok. And ive never seen kids at the head table, thats totally reasonable having them sit somewhere else.
Post # 9
I totally understand where you’re coming from, but I think it should be all kids or no kids. My reception is Adult Only with exception of Out of Town guest. All my Bridesmaid or Best Man are Out of Town and so far they are all talking about not wanting to bring kids because they want to enjoy themselves. My Maid/Matron of Honor is hoping she doesn’t have to bring her son because he is a momma’s boy and wouldn’t want to stay with his dad if she is in the same room which would lead to him crying and them having to excuse themselves to deal with him and probably having to leave early.
I wouldn’t want to take my child to a wedding anyway.
Post # 10
Thanks guys!! I was planning to allow their spouses to also sit at the head table. If it were just one or two it wouldn’t be a big deal… but there are 8. We are going to have alcohol at the wedding, and I didn’t want my wedding party to have to filter themselves around the other’s children. It’s not that I don’t want them at the wedding/reception at all. The baby sitting idea sounds great! Thanks for y’alls responses : )