I don't want to dance at my wedding…

posted 5 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

If you don’t like to dance then why do it? Plus, a wedding of 20 usually isn’t a dancing event anyhow. Why not have a lunch wedding to lighten expectations? It will be cheaper and people won’t be expecting a dancing party reception. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t have a dance! You can also use an ipod for your first dance, but you don’t need to have a dj. Just have music in the background from the ipod, and enjoy the company of everyone around you. Good conversation and drinks. You can even put on your invite “dinner and drinks to follow at….” and not even mention a dance. Especially if it’s not something that you want, this is your day!

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@AlwaysSunny:  Agreed.

You could also just have an iPod reception so people have the option of dancing if they want.  Or just play some soft music so no one expects dancing throughout the reception.

Post # 6
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504 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think you should lean more towards an outdoor reception. This way you can include the dogs. You do not have to have dancing at your wedding if you do not want too. But be prepared to include other activities so that your guests dont get bored. Even if its only about 20-30 people, sitting around for 5 hours is no fun.

Originally my fiance and I were in the same boat as you. We have 50 guests and we wanted no dancing. We do not dance. But everyone suggested to us that the event would be very boring if we did not have dancing. We do not have to dance, but we should give the option to our guests. So that is what we are doing. If the guests want to dance they have the option!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you can have a dane floor so others can dance, but you don’t need to join in! Just spend the time greeting and mingling with guests not currently dancing. If you stay busy you’ll be fine.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I HATE dancing. Sweat, sweat, more sweat, I’m out of breath… and boom. I look gross and I’m covered in sweat.

I am having bowling, pool, and a small dance floor at my wedding. People can dance if they want to, but there will be other options. I think options are key here.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hate hate hate dancing. I had the same concerns as you, but I just did our first dance, danced with DH’s grandpa (he uses a walker, so it wasn’t really dancing), and then the anniversary dance. So it wasn’t bad at all 🙂 If you don’t like dancing, don’t dance! Just visit with your guests.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I don’t dance, SO doesn’t dance, my family doesn’t dance, his family doesn’t dance. We’ve been to some seriously awkward weddings. At one of them about 6 people danced while SO and spent half the evening building a catapult with things left on the tables with my cousin’s wife who has her PhD in astrophysics and works for NASA. The catapult was fun, but it really wasn’t why my cousin paid for a DJ. 

We have no intention of wasting our money on a DJ. We’re going to do something fun that both of our families can enjoy. We’re going to have a games reception. We’re probably going to have decks of cards as favors, so people can play any card game they want and have board games, dominoes, and lawn games to play. I realize that we probably won’t get to play any games, but I think our familes will really enjoy it.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Our wedding was on a Sunday evening, around 50 people, outdoors, and we didn’t have any dancing. It’s just not something we wanted to do. So we didn’t have a dance floor or a DJ. And you know what? No one missed it. If you want to be extra cautious, I’d second the early-afternoon ceremony/reception so people don’t treat it like a big party.

Also,  we found a private estate (historic home) that allowed dogs on the grounds so our two pups were able to join us for the ceremony and pictures; then our helpful dog-sitter/chauffeur took them home so we could enjoy the reception without them stealing food. Good luck!!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee

I hate dancing with a passion.  It’s just not my thing, so I’d love avoiding having a dance floor myself whenever I do get around to getting married ;p.  I was thinking maybe a photo booth and some other activities, but I’d really like an “eat dinner, meet & greet, cut cake, good night and good luck” kind of reception.  I’m always that bored girl in the corner haha!

Love all the ideas so far!

Post # 14
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1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

If you don’t like dancing, don’t dance! If you need a way to kick off the dancing without the traditional “first dance” of the bride and groom (or bride and bride or groom and groom or whatever) there are other ways to kick it off. Someone could ask everyone to dance to your song or another idea would be to ask the longest married couple to dance, followed by the next longest, and so on. You were therefore be the last couple asked out on to the floor by which point I don’t think anyone would notice if you aren’t. Of course you could always just tell your guests how you feel prior so they already know.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

It’s your wedding, you can do (or not do) whatever you want!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Have a brunch or lunch wedding. No one will expect to dance, it’s cheaper, and you can serve all kinds of delicious brunch foods and mimosas!

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