- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2018
I have been having issues with my weight lately, mainly due to one of my antidepressants that I was taking. But also slightly due to my junk food addiction. Both my parents and family (a couple of whom are doctors and know what I was saying was true) believed me when I said that the weight gain was due to the antidepressants (I gained a huge amount of weight in a very short timeframe) and that my weight would go down again when I went off it. My sister basically said ‘no that’s not true, that’s impossible, yada yada yada’ Basically not believing what my DOCTOR had told me. Thinking she knows better than anyone else.
Everytime she talks to me, she can only bring up negative things, ‘oh you should stop eating junk food, join a gym, you need to lose weight, when are you going back to work?’ and not only talk about those things, but over and over, every day. She is NOT my mother, and my own mother doesn’t nag me about any of that like she does. So when she brought up the gym/junk food yet again I said can you please back off? this is my life, none of your business, you are not my mother!
Basically she was all like ‘it is my business, you’re family, you need to be nagged about this, i know better than you, etc etc’
Eventually she agreed to back off.
Yesterday comes around, guess what she nags AGAIN. i told her to F* off, it was my life, i couldn’t help my junk food addiction, the therapy should hopefully help with that, and she had already agreed to back off.
she said ‘you’re killing yourself’ over and over again. i said ‘no i don’t’ and in my head was thinking, but you’re making me want to.
so i asked my FI if i could stay at his place for a few days, he said yes, but couldn’t stay over last night because i was doing my grandmother’s washing for her to take home today.
my sister and i have an alternating chore routine, one week one of us feeds the dogs and takes out the rubbish, and the other empties the dishwasher and fills the water cooler. if one of us is out when their chore needs to be done, except for the rubbish (when the dishwasher finishes, the water cooler becomes empty, or if it is dinner time for the dogs) the other has to do it.
today i checked the dishwasher right before leaving for my FI’s house, not even close to done yet. yet five minutes after I get to my FI’s house, right before she walks in the door, she starts calling non-stop. texting saying stuff like ‘you need to get home and do it, it was done before i got home, stop being lazy’ i said that it wasn’t done when i checked right before i left, and it is not my job to go all the way back home to do her chores for her. and i had done mine before i left so she wouldn’t have to do them. i said that she was the reason i was staying at my FI’s, and to leave me alone. Basically said for me to ‘grow up and stop throwing a tantrum’ she called me and yelled at me to get back home and do it, it was done before she got home, and she got home when i left, it was cold so must have been done for a while, yada yada. i couldn’t handle it, i hung up. then put her on my blocked caller list. she kept texting, saying the same stuff over and over again.
so i texted mum saying that my sister was harassing me, and i got away from the house to get away from her, could she please ask her to stop, since me asking her to wasn’t doing anything.
i got a text back: Grow up and stop being selfish
I was shocked and upset, but assumed it was my sister stealing Mum’s phone so mum wouldn’t see the message.
But about twenty minutes later i get a call from mum. “I was wondering how you were doing, i was cranky at what was going on, that’s why i said what i did, your sister is upset about the dishwasher, you need to talk about these issues at home not over text. I love you, see you on Friday” i could barely reply the whole time, I was bawling. I did not know mum was the one that sent that text, i assumed my sister sent it, mum rarely ever says stuff like that to me, and hasn’t in years.
I don’t want to go home on Friday, i feel so upset now, suicidal for the first time in months. Help please bees :'(
Oh, my sister is 19, I am turning 22 next month