- 2 years ago
OK OK OK I know I’m being way overally emotional about this but I just need to vent grrrrr.
We’re having a baby shower, which is not a strong tradition here in the UK. We decided to do it because our parents have never met being that I’m from the North and that’s where my lot are. So we thought it would be a nice way for our families to meet each other.
Any way one thing you should know about me is I HATE surprises. Always have always will.
So me and SO designed the invites together and had a winter theme to them (Winter baby) and they had baby Polar bears on. Both our favorite animal and it’s sentimental to us. SO works with designers/graphics people so was going to get them pro printed for free too.
I told my mum about them but she got upset because she wanted to hand craft them with my two sisters, she felt left out. So I had a chat with SO and we decided to let her do them to help her feel more included. As she’s not been able to be around pregnancy due to location (her first grandchild).
I made up a guest list, she completey slashed it, X, Y and Z. “They’re not being invited”. This anoyed me but let it sly as I thought “Hey her house, she’s feeding them ect” So that’s fair enough. Despite the fact my closest cousin couldnt come but her best friend could. -____-
Originaly we was going to do the shower on first weekend of Oct. Except MIL’s work got funny with her so I thought “No worries we’ll push it back a week” we’d not told anyone details yet anyway. I called my mum and she freaked out, aparantly the weather won’t be nice enough to do it a week later. It’s an inside do anyway. So MIL had to try again with work ( she sorted it eventually ).
So me and SO picked a cake, blue one with a little polar bear on top. I told my mum her response “Oh i’ve made arangements for the cake, sorry”.
Last night it came to a blow. I have this following conversation with my sister.
Sis – the invites are done but unfortunately they are not polar bear themed as when we did it like that they where 2 much like Christmas cards
me – Can I see one?
Sis – No I want it 2 be a surprise I’m gonna post u one
me – But we wanna see one first! We don’t like surprises!
Sis – Tough
me – Well I don’t want a surprise I want to be included :S
Sis – Nope Don’t worry they are nice
me – Well I want to feel like a part of it, most of the fun is in planning, I don’t want to recieve one like a guest.
I then phoned my mum as I was crying at this point, I just feel like the whole shower is nothing to do with me anymore. It’s my first baby and funny enough I’d like to be included in bloody something. I asked my mum to at least describe them for me she wouldnt. Told me I’d have to “Wait and see like everybody else” then went on to tell me I was mean to my sisters, they wanted a nice surprise for me and I was ruining it. They’re 16 old enough to understand that “Hey maybe mother of the baby would like some input”.
I just want to throw my hands up and go “Fuck it, it’s not my shower anymore it’s yours”.