I don't want to invite her!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Should we invite her?
    Yes : (2 votes)
    4 %
    No : (54 votes)
    96 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It doesn’t sound like your friends anymore or have any contact so I don’t see why you would. It would almost feel like rubbing salt in the wounds at that point.  

    Post # 4
    Member
    7216 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    No. I think the deleting on facebook cancels out your FI’s comment that he’d invite her. And in general, it seems the friendship’s run its course since you guys hardly ever see her now.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2788 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @littlemiss604:  It sounds like your Fi intends to invite her, maybe it’s for the best she is invited. That way she watches the two of you get married and learns to get over herself.

    Post # 6
    Member
    610 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Smithfield Center

    Don’t invite her. Neither of you are friends with her anymore and, frankly, it sounds like she doesn’t want to be friends. I’m not sure what happened between you and her, or her and your FI in the time that you didn’t date him, but obviously something happened that made her dislike you. Things happen unfortunately but just because he sent her a text a year ago about the wedding doesn’t mean you have to invite her.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7220 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Of course not. That wasn’t official, and it was before she blocked you on FB. Tell FI you don’t think it would be appropriate, and she certainly wouldn’t want to be there with her feelings for him. Best to leave it alone. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    465 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    She unfriended you guys on Facebook, you definitely don’t have to invite her to the wedding. How many mutual friends do you have? I’d be a little afraid of her finding out the details and showing up to your wedding somehow, but that would be reallllly ballsy.

    Your wedding isn’t the time to try to make things right between friends, make sure your fiance knows she’s not invited.

    Post # 9
    Member
    1584 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    She unfriended you both on Facebook and was seriously upset at the both of you for getting back together, because she had a crush on your FI. NO, this girl should not get an invite, end of story.

    To top it off, you haven’t spoken in months, so definitely, NO.

    Post # 11
    Member
    1179 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    No, she doesn’t need an invite

    Post # 12
    Member
    465 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @littlemiss604:  whoa, she’s hanging out with his COUSINS?! This definitely needs to be addressed. Discuss it with your fiance, and then just remove this person from your life, don’t engage in gossip, just forget she exists =)

    Post # 13
    Member
    989 posts
    Busy bee

    @littlemiss604:  You’re not obligated to invite her! I had an old work colleague send me a STD for her wedding ages in advance, in the end she didn’t end up inviting me. No big deal, she lives a fair distance from me anyway and we hadn’t spoken very much in the lead up to the wedding. Things change, people change, and maybe at the time it was financially viable to intend to invite a lot of people, but in the end, I didn’t take the lack of invite personally. 

     

    But this Lisa doesn’t sound worthy of an invite. Neither if you have anything to do with her, so it wouldn’t even make sense to have her there.

     

    Post # 14
    Member
    2720 posts
    Sugar bee

    She sounds terrible.  There is no way in hell I would ever invite her. She seems very toxic. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I didn’t read the post, just the title, because it contained all the necessary information.  Don’t invite her.

    Post # 16
    Member
    1163 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @littlemiss604:  Hayyyle to the no, don’t invite that chick! I could tell as soon as your story turned that she had a thing for him. And seriously, who cares if you guys mentioned it a while back? She’s not even relevant to your life anymore, so no invite!

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