- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
Hi bees! This might be a bit long….
So, I’m compiling the guest list, have everyone on it, make out the Save the Date card envelopes, etc. etc. I invite our family and close friends, along with a few others who have known us all our lives. Problem is, my mother wants to keep adding more people because “it’s the right thing to do”. I told her that we can’t add anymore to the list, and that we are out of Save the Dates to send out, and only have a certain number of invites since we purchased ahead of time. So I ended up adding a few extra people, co-workers of my mom’s who have known me my whole life, but whom I don’t talk to on a day-to-day basis.
Now, this is where I get stuck. We have about 165 people on the guest list, a lot of them being family, and a good handful or more who I know probably won’t show up. But I feel that I might be being selfish for inviting all of these people, the ones who we aren’t close with etc. etc. Reason being is because some that I have invited are close with other people I KNOW, but aren’t even remotely close to, for instance, more of my mom’s co-workers. A lot of them have known me my whole life, but I don’t feel the need to invite every single person in the office. I really just want to invite the ones who have been nice, who have done things for me and my mother, and so on, which is what I did. Also, my mom kept saying that the more people that I invite from there, the more gifts I will get because they have money and that’s what they do. (way to be a moocher mother lol)
Althoug this might be true, I feel torn. I feel that a wedding should be for uniting two families together, not two families plus aquaintences, plus their brothers and sisters, plus your neighbors down the street, plus the guy you see at McDonalds everyday, blah blah blah. I want to be nice and invite some of these other people, but is it really necessary? We are in budget and my mom says, “Well, if we are already paying for a few extra people just to make sure, why not go ahead and invite them?” Ugh, it’s just getting frustrating. I find that I keep adding people to the list when my mom get’s involved, because she’s the one paying. But I don’t know about that many people! I know that a lot of them probably won’t come, but still. It’s just frustrating, and I don’t think I had a main point to focus on here, I just needed to vent. lol Thanks for listening bees! 🙂