Post # 1
So Mr.J called me from work yesterday and informed me that he was up for a promotion at his job. GREAT!!! YES!!! THANK YOU JESUS!!! right??
NO!… its in Massachusetts! a million miles away from my mommy, his mom, my sister who just found out she was pregnant again, and my nephew. BUT the job pays $45/hour. and they would relocate us.
Im happy for him and for what a job like that could do for our family…but devestated at the thought of leaving all of our loves ones behind.
He is about to be my husband, so i trust that he is going to make the best choice for our family, but urgh………
I DON’T WANNA LEAVE MY MOMMY!
Post # 3
It’s really hard, I just moved 6 hours away from where I grew up and went to college. I talk to her on the phone almost every night. I know you are much farther but maybe you can fly over for a weekend every once in awhile.
Sometimes I feel very lonely because I left all my friends behind as well and while he seems to be making friends through work I just got my job and am working with only 3 older people. I’m trying, and I know it will get better- positive outlook is something you need.
Post # 4
@accorn: i dont even want to think about it. i know its bad but im really praying that he doesnt get it. when one doo closes…another one opens!!
hopefully that door open in chicago!
Post # 5
Sometimes you have to make sacrafices.
Massachussetts isn’t a million miles away. It could be a lot worse. Yes, you won’t be home for the the little things and you will miss some family events but it could also be the start of a great adventure.
I’m assuming you’ve lived in the same place your whole life? It is quite a change to make a move. But when you get married, you create a new family with your husband and you need to decide what’s best for you as a couple.
Post # 6
@PinkPinstripes: Yes i have lived in the same general area most of my life…so has he! you are so right about building our own family. i know this move could be good for us!
but im still hoping he doesnt get it and we can stay here! i would hate to have to plan the rest of my wedding from a million miles away.
Mrs. Pinkpinstripes you are one of the most encouraging and inspirational women that i have come across on this site! all the bees are great women but you always have some thing amazing to say…so thank you!
Post # 7
I moved 2 hrs away from my parents when I graduated college and moved in with Fiance. The first few months was great, and then I started getting homesick! I never got homesick in college, but once I realized that I was living out of the house for good, I would cry and cry. Fiance didn’t know what was wrong with me! I still get horrible sad when I visit for the weekend and have to leave. My Fiance just knows now that the day after I visit, I will be sad and mopey.
I lived in the same place my whole life and I am an only child, so it was really hard to move. It gets easier…and there is a sort of freedom about being able to leave where you always lived and make a new life somewhere else. You can always visit, email, phone and skype!
Post # 8
You can do it! This will be outside of your comfort zone and hopefully a great learning and bonding experience for you. Think of it as a fresh start! We’re moving after our wedding and I’m also scared, but we know we can always come home.
p.s. I’m from Mass, we’re not so bad here…
Post # 9
@MrsStrawberry24: aww thank you 🙂 you just made my day!
Post # 10
You can do it! I think sometimes it is better to move away and “restart” without your family.
I just moved 2 hours away (sometimes it feels like a million miles, because I don’t get back to visit as much as I’d like). But somehow you do keep in touch and stay a part of their lives. My mom got texting, we share pictures, we chat on facebook and skype…you just make it work. Not to mention that you cherish the visits with them even more 🙂
Post # 11
@soyjoy222: I hope I dont cry like that!!! I HATE crying lol! but thank you! please tell me it gets easier!
@Moja Milosc: lol i heard that Mass people are amazing and very welcoming!
@PinkPinstripes: your welcome!!
Post # 11
Remember that a move is not necessarily permanent – if want to move back later, you can. I’m in the same boat. We’re moving for my FI’s job a few months after the wedding, from MA to CA. I don’t really know anyone there, but I’m looking forward to trying something else, making new friends, and getting a chance to establish a life out there for just the two of us.
You can totally do this! Best of luck.
Also, I’m with Moja Milosc on one more thing: MA rocks. 🙂
Post # 12
I would be scared to move far from my family too, but I’m sure you can handle it. My SIL moved across the Atlantic Ocean to be in NY with my brother. I know it was super hard for her, but she made a commitment to really stay in touch with home. She got a cell phone with unlimited international calling, leaves Skype on all the time, and talks to her family every day. It really helps her feel not so far away. Her 1 yr old neice recognized her straight away when she visited home this summer, cause she is so used to seeing her on the computer! Boston to Chicago isn’t too far, and it would be an awesome opportunity to live in a new city for a while.
Post # 13
THIS IS WHY I LOVE THE BEE!! you ladies are amazing! i feel better already!!!!!
Post # 14
If you’re having doubts about this being a good decision for you then you need to talk with him!
I could never leave my family, not for any amount of money. I already lost my dad, time is precious with family. Money can’t buy family!
That is a good amount of money but at the same time it is up to you as well, even though you trust his judgement it doesn’t mean he’s always right or that you always have to follow.
Good luck in whatever you decide!