(Closed) “I don’t want you” – the polite way?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

“i wanted to thank you for meeting with us, but we have decided to go in a different direction”

Post # 6
435 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@Mrs. Meowerson:  Exactly…..there is no need to get into reasons why. 

I had to do that with my florist because we decided to not have flowers anywhere.  I just said thank you for meeting with us but we’ve decided to go a different way……she didn’t seem to care.

Post # 7
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I said something similar:  “Thank you for this information and being so quick to respond to all our questions.  I just wanted to let you know that we did decide to go another route.”

Post # 8
5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MamaHusky3: noprob.  anyone else we need to break up with? lol   bratty siblings?  non-responsive coordinators? 

Post # 11
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Yep, all these responses are good. Short and sweet. We really don’t take it hard. One thing I would like to add, though, is if all you’ve done is emailed a photographer or other vendor once to get a price list, you don’t need to let them know you didn’t go with them. We automatically assume the people we never have more than one email correspondence with have gone another way. I’m always confused when I get those emails… its like I don’t even remember who this person is and they sent me a rejection email?

On the other hand, if a vendor drives out to meet with you, especially 25 miles or more, you really should let them know, it’s just courteous. 🙂

Post # 12
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

just be honest but polite. if a venue has hideous carpet and is told by 10 brides that was the reason for not booking them then i guess they will change the carpet but if its because you found something more with your vision then that works too

we almost booked a venue with a $30K min but what turned me off was that that insisted i needed to pay $80 for a small table at the ceremony.  im going to spend $30K and they wanted to piss about for $80 dollars for a 10min ceremony (someone had to carry a small table to the garden and back and i had to be a specially trained monkey apparently) – i told this this was exactly why i didnt book them


Post # 13
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Good question. I saw one of my possible vendors at a wedding expo and tried to run away from her just so I didn’t have to tell her that I found a different venue. But then she ran me down. I told her that I was “still thinking about my options”. I know I know, awful lie! But then I sent her a nice e-mail explaining I decided on something different and thanks for all the help she gave me.

E-mail works wonders now a days. I don’t feel bad with using e-mail because THEY use e-mail. Aka, blowing up my inbox with all kinds of offers and specials and reasons why we should buy their services.

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