I feel bad complaining

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@nolapeanut:  I think every Bee goes through the whiny brat stage. At some point everyone thinks “OH COME ON ALREADY!!” 

Everyone is different, though! Some might have chosen to wait that long for age/financial/social reasons. But honestly, I knew 6 months into my relationship with SO that he was going to be it. We just enjoyed the dating part for a couple years before talking marriage.

If posting here to complain keeps you from spilling your waiting anxiety to your SO, then post away!!

Waiting is waiting, regardless of how long!

(Although I do have the utmost respect for those gals that have genuinely expected a proposal and have been waiting YEARS. Troopers!)

Post # 4
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1343 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

I understand.  My SO and I have been together 15 months and I am waiting.  I have been waiting for at least 6 months now.  He started the engagement convos long ago, so I honestly assumed we’d be engaged by now.  Alas, he kind of panicked as we got more serious and, well, here I am still not engaged.  I feel silly sometimes, but he sort of set the tone at the beginning of the relationship, so I sort of feel like it’s HIS fault that I am waiting!

Post # 5
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137 posts
Blushing bee

I’ve been waiting over a year now (together over 8) and have become a royal brat

Waiting is waiting…if you’re there you’re there and it’s hard…whine away 😉 

Post # 6
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31 posts
Newbee

Everyone reaches different parts of their relationship at different times/speeds. So don’t feel bad! 🙂 

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@nolapeanut:  I was definitely ready for a ring after a year! I stalked the bee for a few months before getting engaged.

Post # 9
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220 posts
Helper bee

@Brownbear23:   yes yes YES!

 

3 years next month and its PISSING me off! and yeah, I use the BEE to vent and moan and whinge so my SO doesnt cop it.

Post # 10
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1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@nolapeanut:  We are together for 8 waiting for 1 year.

 

This is the best place to bring your frustration. When the frustration is really bad until it is causing emotional damage, that is when you discuss with your SO.

 

Post # 11
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1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

When you’re ready you’re ready; it sucks when your partner’s not there yet.  Even though you haven’t been together that long I completely understand.  I was ready a lot earlier than my SO… well… still isn’t.  But he’s coming along, slowly but surely.

 

Post # 12
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4576 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You have nothing to apologize for, no matter what anyone else may tell you 🙂 Like others have said, this process is different for every couple. As long as everyone is on the same page, there is really no ‘wrong’ feeling!

For me, I was waiting after just a few months of dating…because he asked me to move across the country with him. He told me he wouldnt ask me that if he didnt plan on marrying me, and I’ve been ‘waiting’ ever since…I just never knew what it was called until the Bee.

Now, I will be engaged in less than 11 days 🙂 Good luck to you!

Post # 13
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

We haven’t been together super long, just about a month off of 2.5 years and I really did fall into the waiting phase earlier than I would have liked – about a year ago. I’m 22 and he’s 27.

Most of what gets me down/what I complain about isn’t how long I’ve waited but how long I will likely have to wait (we’re looking at another year at the very best). But yeah, I totally feel whiney and lame when I compare myself to ladies who have been with their SOs for a very long time (or are a fair bit older than I am). 

Post # 14
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64 posts
Worker bee

@nolapeanut: Don’t be sorry we all at one point in our relationships have felt the same way and feel that way now.  You have the right to feel how every you feel, so the freaking out at the point your at is normal. Smile

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