I feel bad for saying this, but I hate my future in-laws. (rant)

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sorry you’re going through this :/ I have difficult in-laws as well and although I do love them they make me very angry sometimes. Hopefully things will be a bit better now that you are in your own place.

Post # 5
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I don’t like my future in laws either.

My solution?  I have as little to do with them as possible.  I live 200 miles away, I’m 45 (so no future grandchildren), have two cats and a month ago started a job with long hours…so three good reasons to hardly ever see them and one where I don’t have to worry about the future.

They can only poke their noses in your business if they actually know your business…time to start operating at a higher level of privacy, I think. 

Post # 6
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3833 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you are in the majority here.  Yes my in-laws are pleasent and we get along, but i find them phony and i dont trust them for whatever reason. I think his sister is a bit of a bitch and his brother and his GF are just plan rude ass jerks.  

We can be friendly and get along, but we do not have to be buddy buddy with our in laws.  For a long time i beat myself up thinking i was the one with the problem because i wasnt bff’s with his sister. Then i realized, if i wasnt related to her i would want nothing to do with her, so why should i try so hard? I will chit chat with her at gatherings, but i wont be calling her for a girls night any time soon….

Be happy with your FI, live every day feeling greaful and forget about the negative. 

Post # 7
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2481 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I didn’t get on brilliantly with my former ILs. We were always polite but I never felt we had anything in common and they were partial to the sort of snarky remark that suggested my family were a bunch of somewhat decadent toffs. Which they weren’t! They also liked to have an opinion on everything. So I made a point of being very selective about what they were told. An approach I’d recommend to anyone with potentially controlling in laws. Only if they don’t know, they can’t chime in with unwanted and unreasonable opinions.

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