I feel dumb

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

Are you sure she deleted you after the conversation? Maybe she deleted you a long time ago?

Post # 4
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Honey bee

Awww that really sucks. My best friend of 16 years and I are drifting away at the moment. She kept letting me down, I realised,like you how one sided our friendship had been. I took a step back. Didnt hear from her in two months (she is busy but me too!) I reached out. Went out of my way, now nothing. I feel your pain. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June, 2014

I’ve found it’s easiest to cut ties from those kind of people. My “best friend” began drifting from me about 4 years ago. I kept trying to keep in touch with her, show her I cared about her and our friendship and got almost nothing in return. She would never talk to me unless I initiated the conversation, and even then it was brief. I eventually stopped trying and honestly, it hurt, but not much really changed. It hurts now but it’s probably best to let it go and move on. Don’t forget the times you had as friends but find some friends that actually care about upkeeping your friendship. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 5 months ago by  ren89.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

alyssaC:  Well, that sucks, and I agree– it’s very odd to bother reaching out and then doing that.

But the sad truth is this will happen again and again as you get older. It always sucks, but I guess it’s just life. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

prahajess:  I agree – as you get older and enter into new life phases, friendships often change or even end. It is sad but I’ve made some new and great friends in each life phase and even if I don’t keep in touch with all of them, we still had good times.

Also, it’s better to be selective about who is in your life to ensure your efforts aren’t wasted. It is hard but it’s worse to feel used and taken advantage of. “Giving up” a friendship that is no longer worth it probably wouldn’t change much – you didn’t see each other before and you don’t now.

At least now there is no expectation or potential to be hurt/let down. 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

alyssaC:  That must have been so hurtful 🙁 I am sorry that you friend treated you like that. I had this happen to me a few years back with a girl I was very close friends with as well. You can still usually message someone on Facebook if you aren’t friends, but I wonder if your friend is still hurt about the argument and after talking with you couldn’t see past it. You deserve better than that.

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