(Closed) I Feel Like a Crazy Person!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that if you wait until things are financially perfect then you may be waiting a very long time and then again maybe not.  In reality he is 34, if you two are looking at being parents what is the age he is willing to put that off until?  It is something that you need to sit down and have a serious conversation with him about.

 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

That’s a lot to consider!  I can see why it’s getting to you!  I really think it’s six of one, half dozen of the other any way you cut it….but if it were me, I would do my best to leave my concerns about my Dad’s opinion outside of my decision making area, although on the financial front, if he’s still helping out, it’s a factor….I get that SO wants to get engaged and go bang on the wedding, he’s got his reasons and they are valid, but there’s also nothing wrong with a long engagement either.  Especially if it gives you both that next step and focus toward a final commitment….I think your being very responsible and thorough in your decisions, and that’s great…just remember that it’s ok to fly by the seat of your pants sometimes too!

Post # 6
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14503 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@PetulantSarah:  Not unreasonable at all, especially with kids/age thing out of the picture. I do think that you should sit down with him and work out what those goals are specifically. That way it is clear to both of you what eachothers economic line is.  I think that will make both of you secure in the fact that you are actively seeing the progress, and an end result that both of you can be excited about.

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