(Closed) I feel like a failure…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

((hugs))

Post # 5
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Busy bee

Sorry you’re going through this.  Things will get better, I promise.  It’s just a rut.  Try to focus on something you love.  Maybe take a break for a day and paint your nails, read a fav magazine – take a day for you.  Hugs.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Aww, I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling low. I’m sure things will get better for you. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Don’t feel silly! And you shouldn’t feel like a failure either! There aren’t many people that can say they have a bachelors degree, so that is a huge accomplishment! So Congrats!!! Honestly, every now and then a little pity party for yourself is an ok thing. I hate that you feel that way, but maybe something bigger and better is getting ready to come in your future. You definitely seem like you have built up a lot of good karma 🙂 And as far as your DH not planning anything for your birthday, I think sometimes men just don’t think things like that are important to us women. Maybe you should sit down and talk to him and tell him how you’ve been feeling. You wanting a special night for your birthday is NOT being a burden on him! You deserve to feel that way on your day. I hope things start looking up for you soon!!

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh hugs sweetie! You vent your little heart out! If I was there I would throw you a huge party, you better believe it because you ARE special & you are NOT a failure!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Sorry, first off you aren’t the only one who feels this way sometimes. I had a tough time after getting out of school. I say sometimes everyone needs a little bit of a pity party and just try not to wallow in it for too long. Some helpful tips I can give you, send your resume out and try to get hired working either in corporate setting, as an adminstrative assitant or receptionist it actually doesn’t pay too bad. Aim for the types of places you would like to work that are in your field. I think working in those settings will help you as you will be able to meet people and network! Even those jobs may take some time to get, but I think it’s a great first step in taking your career to where you want it.

I also get a horrible case of birthday tears! Shake it off do something low key with your Hubby that will let him go back to studying quickly(hopefully he planned a little something!) and then maybe have fun with friends or Family instead. Go out for dinner and something else you enjoy like dancing, bowling,  or the movies!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Don’t say it’s not worth applying again if you don’t get in! I am in a graduate psych program right now, and many ladies in my program applied multiple times before getting in! If you are not accepted, ask for feedback on your application. Keep applying for jobs in related fields, volunteer as a research assistant if you can’t find a paid position. It seems tough now but it will be worth it when you meet your goals! And remember in this economy it can take a lot of applications to get an interview so don’t give up!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

& As far as the schooling goes, don’t give up! Keep trying, you are worth it!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think you’re a failure! I really just want to give you a hug – so I will virtually!! ((Hugs)). Things will get better, and you’ll find your place somewhere. Don’t feel silly, everyone feels this way at some point in time. Maybe you can apply for teaching or social work? I think your degree would be great in those fields. Lots of hugs!!!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I agree try multiple schools, and even in some cases getting a little work experience and reapplying will help a lot, and you might get into the orginal school you applied to!

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Aww don’t be afraid to pity party it out, its part of the process!

I can totally relate!

I graduated, had big plans all to find I cant even get one single interview. I’m at home and I just feel like everything is suffering. I feel rejection and a whole lot of other things mixed in. I just wanted to say you are not alone and you are not a failure! I know things will turn around, and you never know what is in store for your future!

Thinking of you and praying for you date twinny!

BTW I know you are busy, but if you have time I started a Job Seeking Support thread, it is the sticky in the careers section. A lot of great support if you are hating your job, trying to get a job, want to go to school etc etc. 

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Don’t feel silly. It’s perfectly normal for you to feel frustrated that your circumstances have not changed substantially, despite the fact that you will very soon have your B.S. degree. You’ve worked very hard to complete that degree, and it has to be upsetting to keep working a job that you had before you invested all of that time and money in your education.  However, since you are only just now graduating, you still may find that you will have a much better job in a matter of a few weeks or even months.

It’s also understandable that you would like to do something fun and special for your birthday and that you are disappointed that it appears that this won’t be happening this year. This has to be especially challenging this year, since you’ve already made sure that your DH had a wonderful celebration for his birthday.

I just want to say that, even though our circumstances are very different, and I am much older than you are, I can relate to some of the emotions you are struggling with right now.  I had a very successful career in my field for 25 years, but I had to resign my lucrative corporate job two years ago to relocate to be with DH and his children in a very rural area in another state.  I was originally supposed to be doing some part-time consulting work on behalf of my former company, but changes in the economic and political climate affecting my former company’s industry resulted in that work only lasting a few months. So, it’s been more than a year and a half since I’ve earned any money, and it’s very disheartening that I’ve yet to find any type of job in my field in my new area. Sometimes I feel as if the last 25 years and my professional success in my former city were just a dream, and I wonder what I am qualified to do in this new reality in which I now find myself.  I can’t speak for you, of course, but what helps to keep me inspired is that I know that God has a plan for my life, and it didn’t end when I married DH and made these enormous changes in my life. I just need to be patient. Yet, it’s very hard sometimes.

I also can relate to the part about your birthday. Mine is this week also, and it’s a MAJOR birthday for me.  I am hoping that DH has planned something special, but I know how terribly busy he has been recently — with REALLY important and exhausting things. That, combined with the fact that he’s not really one to plan things very far in advance, has me wondering if there will be a wonderful surprise for me this year, or if I will need to accept the reality that, maybe, he just wasn’t able to put something together, despite the significance of this birthday to me. Again, I can’t speak for your belief system, but I am going to pray that God will help me to not be too disappointed if things do not unfold the way that I am secretly hoping.

Perhaps your DH may have a special surprise planned for you afterall.  Things might turn out better than you think. 🙂

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