Post # 1
Hello Ladies! (Possibly Gentlemen),
I got married this last November and changed my last name to his and moved my to a second middle name. I’ve been feeling a lot of anxiety over my decision it feels like I’ve lost part of my identity in a way.
I now think I want to change it to a hyphenated version, but I’m not sure how to go about that. Can I still bring in our marriage certificate to SS and get it rechanged? My husband is also wanting to get his hyphenated with me. I wished I had taken some time to decide, but at the time I was so excited! Maybe it comes from the fact that my family only had girls and I want to keep the family name going.
Any insight would be great. Thank you!
Mrs.W – Maybe Mrs.P-W.
Post # 3
@melindarby: My parents exchanged last names as middle names because my mom loved the way her first and last name sounded together, but she wanted to have the last name of her children be a part of her name. So they went from J X P and M R (no middle name originally) to J R P and M P R. I like the original solution you had though, because hyphenated names can get very long very quickly if either of you have medium to long last names.
Post # 4
I think that since you’ve already changed it once through SS, you’ll have to do a name change now through the court, and get a court order. Your husband will probably have to change his this way too.
Post # 5
@strawbabies: yup, this is right.
Your marriage certificate has nothing to do with it now. That was your one shot to do your name change the ‘easy’ way and you cant change it now. It has to be done through the courts now.
Post # 6
I’d sit on it for a few more weeks before starting the process. But if you still want to, do it! So sweet that he wants to take yours as well, I love that.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium
I also took his last name and moved mine to be a second middle name. It works for me, I think. I wanted to “keep” my name in some way because I wanted to be easily identified as a member of my family, too. I have teo nieces and a dad (and other family, of course), and if anything ever happened, I wanted to be able to whip my license and prove I am family. The second middle name thing does the job.
I agree that hyphenating is long and can be tedious, but it’s your name- so do what you like. DH was livid that I kept my name (at all), but it’s my name. I’m just now coming to terms with being Mrs. (or Ms.) hislastname… I mean, ourlastname. It’s still weird for me, but the more I use it, the better I feel about it.
Sorry, that was long. I’m just saying… I understand name confusion!
Post # 8
I have been mulling over the decision to change or hyphenate my last name and I have decided to hyphenate. I am the only child and I feel attached to my last name (Especially because my first initial is D and my last initial is D and I don’t want it to be H) So DD-H is what I will be!
I think you should go with what makes you most comfortable, especially if your SO is supportive!