"I Feel Like I'll Never Get Pregnant"

posted 3 years ago in TTC
  • poll: Do/Did you Feel Like You'll Never Get Pregnant?
    Yes : (57 votes)
    38 %
    No : (11 votes)
    7 %
    Sometimes : (40 votes)
    26 %
    I Voted "Yes"...And Later Became Pregnant : (31 votes)
    21 %
    I Voted "No"...and Later Became Pregnant : (1 votes)
    1 %
    I Voted "Sometimes"...and Later Became Pregnant : (11 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2190 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Bigtime. I always thought i’d have trouble TTC (and did) and constantly worried that we’d never get pregnant. I’m sitting here watching my 3 month old sleep, and while i can now say that i wish i worried less, at the time that is very hard to do when you really have no way of knowing if you’ll ever get there. 🙂 

    Post # 4
    Member
    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @CookieCreamCakes:  I’ve had 2 miscarriages so sometimes I wonder if I will ever be able to carry a baby properly or if something is wrong with me. It’s no use getting pregnant if my body doesn’t seem to understand what to do afterwards. 

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    3787 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I definitely had a feeling that because my periods had always been irregular and because I had never had a pregnancy scare, that we would have trouble concieving. I’ll definitely say charting helped relay those fears a lot. But when we actually started trying, we got pregnant pretty fast. 

    Apparently now I just worry about whether I’m going to stay pregnant. lol. I really do try to stay positive though because I actually do think that there is a mind/body connection. Let me be clear, I don’t think you can will you can will yourself into a miscarriage and I HATE HATE HATE when people tell women struggling to concieve that they aren’t getting pregnant because they need to “relax.” (I actually just hate when people tell women to relax anyway – but that’s for another thread). However, I do think that stress and negativity CAN compound other factors that could lead to the an outcome that’s other than optimal. Make sense?

    Post # 6
    Member
    2179 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2024

    We are going to start TTC and this is my first month off the pill, my period still hasn’t arrived and I’m always regular so now I’m having a small freak out that I’ll never ovulate again or be able to get pregnant. I’m sure the stress of worrying isn’t helping my period arrive either ugh.

    Post # 7
    Member
    7654 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @CookieCreamCakes:  It definitely concerned me. It was one of the reasons we chose not to wait longe rto start TTC. Not because I had any prior issues, but because my mom had 5 MC before she had me, and she started at 25 years old. I wanted to start at the same age just in case it took me 5 years like it did her. Her story just scared me, so that was one of the reasons we started. We ended up pregnant with my mc almost immediately, so I didn’t really have much to worry about thank God.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7262 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I always thought I would have trouble getting pregnant because my mom had 3 miscarriages before having me, and my best friend also had 3 miscarriages before having her son. It just seemed like it was destined to be really difficult to try and have a baby. We got pregnant the first time DH didn’t pull out.

    Post # 9
    Member
    2740 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    My parents had fertility issues so even though I’ve never TTC I always had the background worry that when the time came, I’d have trouble, too.

    I ended up with a surprise pill pregnancy.  He’s 10 months old now.

    Post # 10
    Member
    3119 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    For no real reason whatsoever (age, health, regularity, etc.) I did have that feeling as well, and was fortunately able to get pregnant. I do think it’s very, very normal to feel that way, and it certainly doesn’t help that you have to wait a full cycle each time to try again, giving yourself plenty of time for pessimism. 

    Post # 11
    Member
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I am currently feeling like it will never happen.  I am on CD140 (no period since my withdrawl bleed in August after stopping BCP) right now and tomorrow I have a doctors appointment to discuss my blood test results.  I am really freaked out that something is wrong.  My husband is being very relaxed about the whole TTC.

    My Mom and sister had no issues TTC but my Mom’s Mom had many miscarriages and a still born before having my Mom at age 40.

    The worst part is not knowing!

    Post # 12
    Member
    1526 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @CookieCreamCakes:  I am a person who prepares for the worst but holds onto the small glimmer of hope that the worst might not happen.  It’s been 8 months of trying – with only 6 cycles – one of them was definately anovulatory. There have been times when I feel like I will never get pregnant.  A girl I know said to me in the beginning of my TTC journey that “Its funny how women are on the pill and worried about getting pregnant – but once they come off they find out they cant get pregnant – (long awkward pause -prob longer for me)…not saying that will happen to you!”  She said this to me in July and I haven’t forgotten it.  Then last month I was babysitting my nephew and cuddling with him and the thought “you will never get to experience this with your own child” went through my head.  Horrible.  Luckily my DH is very positive and believes we will get pregnant eventually.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1849 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

    Yep, all the time. My new doctor seems confident I’ll be able to after another laproscpy though, so I’ll take that as a good sign. Best of luck to you all.

    Post # 14
    Member
    1249 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    FI and I have been actively “not trying to prevent pregnancy” for over two years now. And while I haven’t been laying on my back with my feet in the air, I haven’t been avoiding sex on certain days either. 

    It does help ease my fears to see other women in similar situations getting pregnant. 

    Post # 15
    Member
    3718 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I worried sometimes that I would never get pregnant due to my age (I’m 39). I got pregnant on my 4th cycle off the pill but miscarried. Then I worried that I wouldn’t get pregnant because I miscarried 🙂 I got a BFP on the 3rd cycle after the MC and am now just over 15 weeks pregnant and everything is good and well!

    Post # 16
    Member
    2839 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I always worried that I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant, then I got pregnant the first month we tried. There were actually a few weeks after I was pregnant where I would catch myself thinking “Oh, I’ll never get pregnant… Oh wait, I am pregnant.” 

    Sadly, I miscarried that pregnancy last month and now I am right back to “I’ll never get pregnant!” despite how wrong I was the first time. 

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